Which came first, the title or the SAHW?

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.

Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 3:11pm
You seem to see everything in absolutes Cyndi. Why would this be any different?????

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 3:16pm
Sure, a wohm can do SOME of those things (how a wohm can work during the day AND take their children to the beach/park/library/museum everyday as well is beyond me, but I'm sure you'll tell me how it can be done), but why would they want to?

If you're doing all that and working a fulltime job be my guest, I'd say you were a big SUCKAH!

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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 3:21pm
Yeah right, do everything around the house, cook a gourmet meal every night, workout everyday, do all the errands and then work a fulltime job on top of it. Go right ahead, knock yourself out. No really, knock yourself out - you will you know, if you don't collapse first!

You want to do everything, go right ahead. I'm not that stupid.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 3:25pm
Well I do have an idea, and I'm quite sure any one of them could outearn you with one hand tied behind their backs.
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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 3:29pm
It's not all that difficult. Some children benefit more from being with their moms than they do from a few extra bucks. Not yours of course, but some.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 3:40pm
For the 934rth time, because she benefits them MORE by being at home with them.
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 3:49pm
C'mon - how many SAHMs really do all those things *every* night??

>>do everything around the house, cook a gourmet meal every night, workout everyday, do all the errands<<

I'm not saying WOHMs do all those things daily either because, yes, they would "knock themselves out." However, I highly doubt that many SAHMs are cooking gourmet meals nightly, working out daily and doing everything around the house (esp. since many SAHM posters have indicated they have PT housekeeping help).

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 4:05pm
we don't need to do those things everyday, yet they can still be part of our routine. we've many times visited the norwalk maritime aquarium, bronx zoo, our local library, mystic aquarium, science center in west hartford, discovery museum in bridgeport, beardsley zoo, silverman's farm, amy's udder joy, beaches, local parks including the one up at our daughter's school,.

additionally, when we are on vacation, we make it a point to visit all of the educational places in the area.

i can't imagine WHY anyone would do all of those things every day. But the fact is that, even as a wohm, we have PLENTY of time to do all of those things -- they just don't NEED to be done M-F 9-5.

no suckah here, LOL! Just a mom who enjoys working AND enjoying doing things with and for my kids. Really, i didn't think that's so difficult to understand.

eileen

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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 4:15pm
We manage everything on Eileen's list and I can't say that it is much of a stretch for us at all. What exactly is so difficult about doing all that and WOH??

"how a wohm can work during the day AND take their children to the beach/park/library/museum everyday as well is beyond me, but I'm sure you'll tell me how it can be done"

It is perfectly easy...if I have the kids picked up by 3-3;30pm, we have plenty of time to go to the park/library/museum...beach tends to happen during the summer break when one or the other of us is at home anyway (for VERY obvious reasons,lol). Do we do all those activities every day? Nope definitely not, but we didn't do those things everyday when I was a SAHM either and it is even trickier now that I am fitting in weekly swimming and piano lessons (which, yes, I manage to deal with in the afternoons). Again, just what exactly seems so difficult about getting all this done while WOH?


Laura


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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 4:20pm
I will once again post EXACTLY what you said which is "However, sitting home on my butt waiting for them to get home would accomplish little beyond them not bringing their friends to our house."

How could I possible interpret that any differntly than I did? You are constantly saying one thing and then backtracking and saying you never said that. Most SAHPs do not sit at home all day on their butts. And I STILL don't understand why your kids would not bring their friends to your house if you were home when they got there. My house is the neighborhood hangout. I don't think it matters whether I am a SAHM or not. I just think that my house is a comfortable place for the kids to hang out. I am happy to feed them and chat with them. Why do you think your kids wouldn't bring their friends to your home if you were there?

I personally think your kids would be MORE likely to bring their friends by if someone were home.

Jenna

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