Which came first, the title or the SAHW?

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.

Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 4:26pm
Eileen, i have a confession. i could never remember the name of that movie, so i always call it "Where the hell is Nemo?". my mom promised to buy it for us while they were here for thanksgiving, so one day while i was working, she gave me a call and we talked about dinner etc, and then she said, "oh, btw, i bought, where the hell is nemo for you guys". LOL!! and you wonder why lauren and i are nuts???? the "nut" doesnt fall far from the tree!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 4:30pm
Have you seen the broadway production of Lion King??? We went last year(minus lee oliver) and if you do nothing else every again, be sure to see the production. there are no words to describe the beauty of it all. the costumes, the music, the makeup, the props....simply breathtaking!!! my computer techy dh was in awe the whole time. i am going to find a way for lee to see it one day, as he is our artsy, fartsy acting, artist child and would love it.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 4:33pm
I didnt get that either. If no one was home, I'd think that most parents would not ALLOW other kids to be in the house (although we did it ALL the time when I was a kid-no ones parents ever figured it out either). I remember all the stuff we did during those 3-6p hrs as young teens. I remember friends taking off from school at lunch and going over to *so and so's house* to smoke pot because their parents were at work.

No, there is never a guarantee that being home when your child gets home from school is going to PREVENT them from EVER getting into trouble. But having a child come home to an empty house, even IF they have a long list of chores or siblings to watch, is an almost certain recipe for disaster.

I dont know how many times dd has brought friends home, because THEIR parents werent home and they didnt want to be home alone. Kids like coming to our house too, and my being here has certainly never prevented that.

dj

Dj

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 4:37pm
It is so sad you had a crappy experience. i have said on the board more than once, when i found out lauren was putting *my* nephew/s in dc, i just died inside. i was a msahm at the time. well, when i saw the enviornment they were in, and how well they were treated and all the opportunities dc provided them, i was a changed person. it was a wonderful experience for her kids, and it was a full dc, with classrooms, and the "whole nine yards". my parents were invited down all the time to watch the kids in their productions, halloween parades, parties. i cant express how wonderful it was for my nephews, and i so wish you hadnt experienced the ugly incidents you did. i do believe that is not the norm, or at least i truly hope its not.
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 4:37pm
we would love to see it some time. a few years ago we opted to take the kids to NYC (man, that sparked debate here too, LOL!) to see beauty and the beast --what a fantastic show -- and all the women in the audience got a red rose. Jenna loved that!

eileen

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Registered: 12-02-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 5:14pm
Um, then what mom would make doesn't make a difference does it?
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Registered: 12-02-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 5:15pm
It says exactly what it says. What good would sitting on my butt at home do? It's not where you are but WHAT you do that matters!!! Simply being at home doesn't accomplish much here. You actually have to do something.
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Registered: 12-02-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 5:16pm
Nope. You just keep trying to tell me I do.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 5:38pm
"I thought your post insinuated that dual WOHP families cannot do these things,"

Of course that's not what I insinuated, didn't you read it correctly? What, do little fairies come and do all that stuff for wohps? Please.

My point is, for those who can't grasp it, that sahp's can take care of all those things that BOTH wohps have to do in the hours around their work day, or during lunch breaks (some lunch break, running errands, not my idea of a break).

Last month dh took a few days off. He did the grocery shopping, made dinner, did dishes, laundry and even chauffered the boys to practice. I can't believe how easy those few days were for me! Effortless. i came home from school, and literally had the entire evening to spend with the boys or working out. If that's what having a sah wife is all about, let me tell you, it was great.

When I sah f/t, I took the kids to the beach, a museum or a park almost every day, not just weekends, and we spent hours there. No one could anyone do that after 5:30 or 6:00 every weeknight. To say otherwise is just an insult to anyone's common sense.

Say whatever you want, but having a sahp DOES make life easier on all the other family members, unless they happen to be a lazy slug.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 5:45pm
No, dh and I never even tried to cut it. I'm pretty sure I could take my clothes down to the river and wash them on a stone but why would I want to?

You're obviously happy with doing it all, good for you. I'm glad I don't even try to.

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