Which came first, the title or the SAHW?

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.

Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 11:07pm
I'm off at 2:00 two days a week and DH is off on Wednesdays, so that's 3 days a week when our boys are home with a parent after school. And we both WOH FT. And we live near NYC, but neither of us work 50 minutes away from home. Not *everyone* has a 50 minute commute. Not *everyone* works until 6:00 p.m. Heck, most of the people I work with are gone by 4:30. Not *everyone* has or wants a high-powered executive position. My DH went to dental school mainly so he could be self-employed and not be tied to a corporate job. He now has long hours, but that's simply because he doesn't have enough help in the office. He's hiring a chair-side assistant in 2004.
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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 11:11pm
Ooohhhh, I think I finally understand where you're coming from. Like the income you make now wouldn't make a difference if your dh were earning a great salary. Is that what you mean?
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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 11:19pm
Notice I said "when I was a sahm" as in past tense, as in when the kids were little and not in school all day.

Now we do those things during the summer and during school vacations.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 11:25pm
DH's workload doesn't give him enough time to pitch in. If I woh fulltime we'd just have to hire a lot of help to get it all done.

And to tell you the truth, I love to cook, shop, run errands, be home. Cleaning, well, that's a necessary evil, but the rest of it, especially being with the kids, I just loved.

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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 11:30pm
It wasn't all for them, I love the beach, meeting the other moms at the playground, I love museums and why can't life be a party every day? I think having fun is very important, you never know how much time you have left.
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 12-31-2003 - 12:31am
if i come to charlotte, you will owe me a hell of a lot more than lunch!!!! will you be visiting Lauren in NJ this summer -- i'm only about 1.5-3 hours from there...

eileen

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 12-31-2003 - 12:37am
poor slobs because we go to the beach on the weekends? YUCK. you have now sunk to an all-time low.

as for my schedule, it may not be as "light" as you think. I leave at 6 am, plan my day from 7-8, teach until 2:30, arrange things for the next day, leave at about 3-3:30 and get home between 4 and 4:30.

However, i've always said that while i have a bit less days to work per year, my sisters have been able to do many/all of the same things that i have with less time available...one sis has 3-5 weeks off, one has 2-4 weeks off...one gets off at 3 pm, one gets off at 5 pm

eileen

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 12-31-2003 - 12:40am
<> you forgot weekends and holidays....

GEEZ, isn't this JUST what you blasted me for above?

eileen

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Wed, 12-31-2003 - 12:48am
Alrighty, alrighty, I believe you.

>>What do you think we did, stayed at home?????????<<

I think many SAHMs can't afford to do the museum/park thing daily, so yes, they DO SAH. It's great your life affords you these luxuries.

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Registered: 12-02-2003
Wed, 12-31-2003 - 1:22am
Takes two, my dear, lol.

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