Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
| Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am |
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.
Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
What I don't do is yoga every day.
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To me it's not so much the finances as my dh makes quite a bit more than me.
PumpkinAngel
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Jenna
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your sil's life is what she makes of it. the point is that my life is what i've made of it, and it is very much like what many dual-income families' lives are like--not some sort of mishmash of what your family's dynamic and circumstances stick you with, embellished with your dire fantasies.
i know that you will find free museums in nyc and d.c. and that you won't find them in chicago, toronto, and a multitude of other cities first-hand. my children horizens and experiences are hardly limited--are in fact, probably even more broad and far-flung than yours, even though mine are younger and you live in the n.e. corridor. the fact that i don't haul them out on daily excursions doesn’t mean that they are by any means deprived—only that they aren’t exhausted.
you'll have to forgive me and others for being confused by how the specific examples, say of things that people can do (btw, you must know that commuting into manhattan isn't likely to be free, even if bronx zoo and met admission is) don't correlate with what you actually did. so we'll replace some of the two-hourish commutes into manhattan with sometimes even longer commutes to boston, nh, and other places--the difference being? variety, yes, but and improvement over regular opportunities to stay put: not for most kids. or so you made these major hauls once or twice a month but spent the other eighteen weekdays not at museums and zoos and the like, like you suggested, but only at the beach (even though your son got restless quickly with that routine); any sahp who doesn't live near a beach couldn't live this rarified version of "what sah is like" in the world according to slim; any wohp who lives near a beach could, and even the most restricted dual-income couple could pull off the same "few trips a month" to zoos, museums, and the rest that your current story seems to suggest.
Edited 12/31/2003 11:26:23 AM ET by chimera_98
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