Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
| Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am |
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.
Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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We'd just hire a housekeeper if i woh fulltime so neither of us would have that burden.
We don't all have those nice little 8-4 jobs with the 15 minute commutes that everyone here keeps telling me about, not if we want the same level of career and income.
it's worked for us and it's made THIS mom a whole lot less frazzled, AND i have groceries in the house.
eileen
Laura
Laura
Susan
You can't have it both ways, you know. You can't be claiming that your best, ideal situation is universal when in the next breath you claim it's unique to you alone (particularly after you've been refuted.) Pick one, but you can't claim both and expect it to go unchallenged here.
and despite your snarky little remark about "We don't all have those nice little 8-4 jobs with the 15 minute commutes that everyone here keeps telling me about..." you seem to feel your points about the benefits of SAH become automatically applicable generally, when in fact the REAL issues of your lifestyle are self-imposed, (i.e. "not if we want the same level of career and income.") Okay, so you CHOSE DELIBERATELY a lifestyle that requires certain kinds of sacrifice from you both in terms of income, career, time available to give the kind of parenting to your kids that you want to give. You CHOSE for your dh to work excessively to the point that there is no backup for you. YOu CHOSE to live in one of the most expensive areas of the country, far from your dh's job. You CHOSE all those things that now mean SAH is the best choice for YOUR family, but many of the rest of us not only DIDN'T choose that lifestyle, we don't even want it. Your generalized comments about SAHParenting aren't applicable in the generalized context you keep trying to place them.
Gee, doncha think that any family with a SAHP chose that route because it's best FOR THEM? Or do you suppose they do it because someone on a message board tells them it's better.
eileen
Oh, and as far as the downtime thing and kids, I think it depends on the child. I have (had) to active, high energy boys. No such thing as downtime for them they had to be on the go, all the time.
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