Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
| Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am |
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.
Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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But I absolutely agree with this! Believe me, I know those kinds of kids....friends of mine have kids with that level of energy :-). My point was that not every child wants or enjoys being taken to a different place every day, it is very personality dependent. Ds was the kind of child who was described as "placid" throughout his babyhood and toddlerhood. Even as a two year old, he could happily spend hours sitting on the floor working with toys and puzzles. I usually had to drag him out to the park against his will because I had the bizarre idea that daily fresh air is good for the body and soul :-). 1-2 playgroups per week and 1-2 major outings per week were about all he could handle...he just needed veg time at home and still does. Dd is more high energy than he is, but this is still just relative :-). We have weekly swimming and piano lessons in the afternoons and I try to plan at least one other outing or playdate per week, but that is about as much as they can handle...especially with the growing amount of homework ds is getting now.
Laura
"Honestly, to insinuate that a family with 2 wohps has as much time as a family with a sahp, and can accomplish everything from staying home with a sick child, to cleaning the house, to hanging around for repairmen with the same ease is just plain absurd."
That sounded pretty universal to me. A "family with 2 WOHPs" made a great big generalization about millions of people.
Susan
Yes, I absolutely stand by my statement that a family with 1 fulltime wohp has more free time than a family with 2 fulltime wohp's.
How can anyone dispute that?
I've seen those other kinds of kids, the ones who would sit on the floor with a little toy, barely moving, content to just look at it a bit. I always wished I had one too!
Look, you've told me over and over again how glad you are that you don't live my life, is that supposed to make me feel badly? Don't shed any tears for me H&I, I don't have it that bad, really. I'll let you in on a little secret, when I was a little girl I never dreamed of living your life, so I guess we all got the lives we wanted, and we're living our ideals. That's a good thing, in case you were wondering. I guess we should be thankful for how very lucky we are that we are living the lives we always hoped for, right?
Trust me when my sil herself, who makes 85K BTW, tells me that it's one of the easiest jobs out there. She has a 6th year and a masters, and yeah she takes an occasional seminar but big woo, when I was an SE I sometimes pulled all-nighters or went to 2 week training sessions which lasted well into the evening, for which I of course got no overtime so spare me the lecture. I know whose working how many hours, and teachers have a light schedule in comparison to my former career and to my dh's, and my BIL's. Not even close.
eileen
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