Which came first, the title or the SAHW?

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.

Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 9:54am
Get off your high horse already. If you were talking about when your son was small, why were you using TODAY's work schedule and hours?

Compare apples to apple's, we don't care what your commute is now or work hours are now, talk about what they were when your child was small.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 9:58am
Middle school has 2 free (prep) periods a day, plus lunch. Duty is once a week. SIL has taught for 27 years.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 10:02am

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 10:03am
I loved it when dh took them to the park, or if they were with grandma. Absolutely loved having the break and having them be with dh or relatives.

The nanny I would have viewed as taking my place. Maybe I'm weird that way.

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 10:08am
sure, if you come in for me as a sub, you get 3-4 periods off -- however that in no way means that "I" have those periods off.

prep period -- of course you have that off -- you have nothing to prep for. it's hardly ever "free" for me

lunch -- free for you, often free for me (btw, last year it wasn't free for me because i had kids in my room every single day for tutoring, extra help and finishing make-up work).

hall duty -- only busy when the lunch shift changes....mostly free for you...not free for me as i use that time to make phone calls or grade papers

team meeting -- free for you, HARDLY free for me -- i run the meeting. we discuss kids on a daily basis, plan special event days, plan field trips, meet with parents.

therefore much of your day is free because you are a visitor....as a teacher your day would hardly be as free as it is now. don't think you can even begin to compare the two.

eileen

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 10:10am
what does a nanny's professionalism have to do with who she works for (sahm or wohm)?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 10:12am
No, I don't consider them professional because they are too inexperienced and work too few hours a week.

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 10:13am
then she's got a sweet deal at her school...that's not even close to what my schedule is like.

eileen

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 10:14am

I don't think you're weird.


Is it because it would have been the nanny, a paid non family member, or that you weren't working (I'm guessing) when your DH or ILs took the boys to the park?

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 10:15am
but let's be clear here...an au pair is not a nanny -- nor should she be...she is part of a cultural exchange whose main purpose is not childcare. and there are very tight regulations on how many hours they can work and what they are paid.

eileen

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