Which came first, the title or the SAHW?

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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.

Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 1:14pm
If Dubya's reasons were so compelling he should have used them and not resorted to bald-faced lies. And they ARE bald-faced lies because where, oh where are the freaking WMD??? Hmmmmmm???? And if they WEREN'T lies, why did the White House acknowledge that they were and they KNEW they were before the war started? They KNEW the 'evidence" of WMD was bogus and they never said a word until we started the war.

If we were so justified in going in there, then we should have had the integrity to just go anyway, instead of going based on a lie.

And I don't care if YOU think those ends justified those means, it was a freaking immoral lie. That you support such behavior while at the same time villifying something that was nothing more than marital infidelity says....well....everyone knows what it says.

If you really think the world is better off with the situation over there even MORE unstable than it ever was then you must have a very skewed idea of what's good for the world.

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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 1:17pm
I would love Katie Couric's job (not Kelly Ripa's). She gets to talk to everyone, interview everybody, have fun, travel, sit next to Matt Lauer and hey, that wardrobe and paycheck are nothing to sneeze at.

It doesn't appeal to you at all? I think it's the best job on the planet.

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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 1:22pm
Do you want to SAH?

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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 1:25pm
Not at all. It seems superficial and exhausting.

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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 1:33pm
<> Yes, but sometimes they do. And for those kids of parents who CAN, but WON'T provide it, I feel badly.
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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 1:35pm
Right, and there's a world of difference between your kids and kids who DON'T like it, but are forced to go EVERY DAY.

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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:05pm
I think that corporate officers have wives (and husbands) who do not need to work. They make boatloads of money and have very demanding jobs. It is difficult to manage a household when both parents have very demanding jobs (BTDT). Many people who have demanding jobs do not make enough money for one partner to quit so they make due. Not all demanding jobs are high paying. However, corporate officers make enough so that they do not NEED to juggle 2 jobs just to get by. In such circumstances it is common for one spouse to give up thier career. For us, I gave up my career because dh had the ability to make MUCH more money than I.

Dh is a partner in a small law firm. Being a partner means that in addition to billing as many hours as the associates he has to participate in running the firm. He also devotes many hours to developing business (outside normal business hours). In addition, he travels quite a bit. I would be very difficult to juggle all the hours he is gone if I were not available most of the time. I beleive corporate officers have more demands on their time than average workers. I think that is why so many of their spouses choose not to work.

Jenna

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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:06pm
Is that what YOU want?

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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:11pm
I think you need to be really dedicated to your career to make a household work when both parents have demandig jobs. I always loved working and didn't need the money to survive. I was very dedicated to making the dual career gig work, but it required much planning and cooperation on both of our parts. I did not fully give up my career until I was laid off (in a large downsizing).

Having lived that life I would imagine that if a person did not LOVE thier job they would not want to remain committed to it after the income was no longer needed. I understand the attraction of having a satisfying career of one's own, but I can't imaging going through the hassles of having a dual career family unless both partners were enjoying what they were doing. I think many of these women may have been in jobs that were less than satisfying to them. So they chose to give them up when they were no longer needed.

Jenna

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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:17pm
I agree about sweatpants. I go the gym in sweatpants, but never out around town. I am not big on huge amounts of makeup but can usualy manage mascara and lipstick. I am not sure I would be executive wife material though.

Jenna

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