Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
| Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am |
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.
Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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Mary
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The only reason I wonder if the gov't would wait on releasing this kind of info is a) the amount of testing needing to be done and b) how bad it would make Bush look (in an election year) if they announced it and then were wrong. But I do know they did have the chemical weapons on a small scale. Because of DH's possible exposure in that room (they didn't have them wear protection) we are not having any more children:(
Mary
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What you have missed also is that SO MANY of these families with sahps come from latchkey childhoods and they DID NOT want that for their children.
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Dj
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Seriously, the debate here seems to based on the premise that women work for one of two reasons--either to keep body and soul together, or so they can afford a lot of designer crap. Neither is the reality I know (although there was time I had to work to make ends meet). If DH and I were so inclined, we *could* engage in conspicuous consumption. We can buy the Benz, or the Hummer, and the big hosue, and I guess even some Prada if I wanted it, but that's not how we live. I do not have my nails professionaly done. Hell, I hardly ever have nails because I'm always painting and tiling. I pack everyone's lunch. DH drives a 7 year old Mazda and I drive a four year old VW wagon.
Like Cyndi,I work so we can afford to send the boys to a good parochial school, so they can go to any college they can get into, and so we have a cushion against hard times and emergencies. Of course there are some material, tangible benefits to my WOH, but that's not why I do it.
If you can provide your kids with good educations and a reasoanbly secure and comfortable life on one income, that's great. Whatever works for you. My kids are are at least as well adjusted as(and in some cases, far less spoiled than) their friends whose moms SAH. They are not serial killers in the making because I WOH and thereby deprive them of maternal attention. I'd be the same mom whether I SAH or WOH--to be honest, I would have liked to SAH for at least a couple of years, but that was more for me than for them. They're just fine.
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