Which came first, the title or the SAHW?

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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.

Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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Wed, 12-24-2003 - 8:41am
Some of us have this crazy notion that happiness and decreased stress is beneficial . . . .
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Wed, 12-24-2003 - 8:45am
If you knew how to play piano, SAH could have benefitted her because you could have taught her to play yourself, LOL!

My child can run and play with the kids in our very nice neighborhood largely BECAUSE I SAH. (After work hours, kids aren't out b/c we're far enough north so that it's dark here much of the year, and weekends are family time for us.)




Edited 12/24/2003 8:50:26 AM ET by cocoapop

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Wed, 12-24-2003 - 9:39am
You said <> I was actually agreeing with you and adding that even multiple incidents don't make a rule.
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Wed, 12-24-2003 - 9:45am
How about a happy mom?? nt
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Wed, 12-24-2003 - 10:30am
Not here.

Dj

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Wed, 12-24-2003 - 10:46am
Well, the QUESTION was <> SAH doesn't have to benefit ONLY the kids to be a positive thing.

1) Not having to worry about the kind of care our kids are receiving. You admitted that as a positive, but then added that we're "...kidding yourself if you think moms never have bad day or need a break from their kids."

And YOU'RE kidding yourself if you think SAHMs never get a break from their kids. WOHMs have bad days and need breaks from their kids as well.

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How would WOH benefit MY kids when we already LIVE in a great neighborhood with great schools where they can run and play and get plenty of exercise outside?

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Wed, 12-24-2003 - 10:49am
Can't you read properly? I said sell OUT my kids. Slight difference. Or don't you understand the difference? You can't be that incapable, can you?

At any rate, that's your response? That's it, a lame misinterpretation of my words?

Surely you can do better than that.

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Wed, 12-24-2003 - 10:50am
She asked for *positive*. Things like lower stress and better quality of life might be less tangible than a house or school, but that doesnt make them less valid or real.

dj

Dj

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Wed, 12-24-2003 - 10:53am
Right, I understand that. I was simply refuting your statement that there is "no such thing" as aftercare for a 12 or 13 year old. I'm saying there is because I see it around me. Just because it doesn't exist by you doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

Susan

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Wed, 12-24-2003 - 10:55am
Why do you insist on basing everyone else's situation on your own? Maybe most single income families don't have dh's who are sweating bullets or working OT, did that ever occur to you? Maybe many single income families have very, very large financial cushions, and actually WANT to climb the corporate ladder.

Not all husbands want to work only 35 hours a week or stagnate, maybe some actually thrive on success.

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