Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
| Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am |
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.
Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
The study in question holds that when one parent SAH both do 7.7 hours of parenting a day and when both WOH they both do 7.3 hours of parenting a day with fathers doing 35% and 40% respectively. For what it's worth, that's an increase from 2.7 hours a day to 2.9 or something slightly higher than a 7% increase in actual time spent with the kids by dad, however, that number has to be take with a grain of salt since it's an 18 year average with no way to split out the preschool years from the rest so you have to go with dads being an average of 7% more involved when moms WOH from the time babies are small.
When mom goes to work after the kids start school, dads involvement only rises to 36% from 35%. Assuming all of the difference occurs during the school years, it works out to 36.5%, for the school years. Assuming the total hours are the same when moms WOH regardless of when she starts WOH (assuming that 100% of the difference is accounted for in the preschool years when mom starts working after the kids start school.) you get a reduction in the number of hours dad spends with the kids once mom returns to work if she SAH during the preschool years. Which leads one to conclude that dads who are uninvolved in the beginning tend to stay that way even if mom changes her working status later since you just don't see the increase in dads participation you'd expect. I find that rather interesting.
Edited 12/24/2003 10:46:07 PM ET by cyndluagain
Edited 12/24/2003 10:56:43 PM ET by cyndluagain
I'll post the documention if you want.
You can only seem to equate benefit with finances. I am trying to show you that unhappiness = dollars. Whether or not you agree with it is irrelevent. Unhappy kids are big dollars these days and one reasons kids are unhappy is because they were in daycare during part of their lives. That is what they tell their parents and their shrinks anyway.
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