Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
| Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am |
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.
Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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Again, you wanna make a bet? I knew when my father couldn't make out house payments when I was growing up, I knew why we moved out of a decent neighborhood into a lesser one. No I didn't say anything to my parents, but I knew and I was only 6 years old. One doesn't "allow" their children to know these things...kids aren't stupid. They have feelings and they can sense when there is trouble. Maybe you forgot how to sense it, I never did. Then can tell when the phone calls from those the parents owe money to start coming in. They can feel the stress and THEY feel it worse because they know they are too young to DO anything about it. Again, I am lucky in that my daughter is old enough to understand and old enough to know that she can experess herself, and lucky to know that she has a couple of good "jobs" that afford her to get the things she enjoys rather than having to have mom tell her "not this month". It's kind of hard to hide the fact that there isn't as much money as there used to be when there is only one gift under the tree...you don't have to SAY anything. They know when a parent is up half the night trying to figure out who is going to get paid and how...luckily my situation hasn't gotten that far but I remember my parents being up doing just that. Maybe you don't think they know it or you've talked yourself in to believing they don't know...they do.
How do I know this I have that most people get this. This is very common yes it is painful.
But lots of people have that just like they have my autoimmune diseases and guess what some of the things above doesn't cause big bucks. Unless you have the orthopedic surgeon go in and connect the rubber band mucle then you have other issues.
And guess what your mother in law may have bought other body parts and what have you and yes it's prolonged her life however; if her body rejects those parts what good are they.
And by the way if you received I don't know what the term is for it for medicaid medical but you would be covered to see the orthopedic doctor however; your citing those cortisone shots that deteriate and delinate the problem long term use of those shots means your not gonna walk on that foot. That is why alternative measures are advised such as physical therapy which I gave you at the beginning of the post.
And those don't cost very much.
During her elementary years we went to the local library for story hour these same children were in basic books not moving on to chapter books which I had addressed with the teachers, principal an other parents however; they wanted the name of the school and it's symbolism in the community.
So I am wondering since they stayed home and I worked and my child faired way farther academically and still does why that was? Was it because I was able to introduce and pay for educational things, trips, and books and supplies????????? Or was it because I utilized my time with my child to focus on academics what is the cause. Cause I clearly wasn't a stay at home?????/
The research you did you used to show your point supporting your argument for staying home, however; do the research showing the opposite? Also both of those sources you provided give generalities and each persons situation is individualistic.
However how you are coming off is as uncaring, aloof and like your children's feeling do not matter to you or what they want. And with that attitude I am wondering why you bothered to have children if that is the case? Are you purposely being on hard on them so that they are hard or what?
Edited 12/26/2003 11:22:59 AM ET by cyndluagain
My ss's never knew my bank balance because they didn't need to know how tight things really were. While our financial situation did affect them because it limited what was available to them, the stress was dh's and mine to deal with. That's just not something you heap on your kids. It's bad enough if mom and dad get ulcers. The kids don't need them too and it serves no purpose to let them in on the degree of difficulty of your finances.
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