Which came first, the title or the SAHW?

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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.

Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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Registered: 12-06-2003
Sat, 12-27-2003 - 10:27am
Why? Why would it be the mother's fault? And given the extreme examples I provided, what do you think the mother's in these situations could have done? I am just guessing here, but I don't think it is a big stretch to say the Mrs. Hussein was not allowed in the picture much at all.

Maybe it is a misfire in the neurons. Maybe the dad passed down a psychosis through some DNA map. Maybe there is just such a thing as evil.

The point was that education does not create "better" people. I am not quite sure why someone would want to point the finger at the mother's of these men.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 12-27-2003 - 10:28am
Eileen, don't waste your tears on someone like this flame-baiting troll; her posts are not worth the energy it would take to blow snot out of your nose, are twice as nasty and about 1/10th as useful.

Clearly, she's the kind of poster who looks for people's emotional weaknesses and then exploits them for the perverse amusement she gains from watching the reaction.

Just ignore her posts; she no longer deserves the courtesy of having her "opinions" noticed or acknowledged.


Edited 12/27/2003 10:31:30 AM ET by hank_n_indys_mommy

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Sat, 12-27-2003 - 10:32am
thank you. I shouldn't have responded, but it hit such an emotional chord that i couldn't stop myself. I've worked so hard to be sure that ALL of my children KNOW how important and loved they are. Unfortunately, the rest of society has to suffer the kind of ignorance that she has shown.

thanks again. i will try not to let it bother me anymore. I'm just about ready to head out to take andrew and jenna for haircuts. alyssa is spending some time with her Saturday aide.

eileen

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Registered: 12-06-2003
Sat, 12-27-2003 - 10:36am
I don't know what else to say nt
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Sat, 12-27-2003 - 11:15am
You have every reason to be angry. I'm just a very occasional poster who mostly lurks but I've read some of her posts....she's clueless.....very clueless. And, since she has not earned any respect here...her comments are empty, useless paragraphs. Her ignorance and lack of class shines through....

I can say though that I truly respect you. You have shown countless times that you are a fabulous mother who has a wonderful family. I can relate with reference to the constant care.....I work with special needs students (non ambulatory, non verbal). But even if you don't have any experience caring for a child with special needs....a truly good person would be compassionate and understand your position.

Bottom line, you know in your heart that you are a good mother, you have a wonderful family...That's what matters....

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sat, 12-27-2003 - 11:36am

Well said!


This is why I don't much debate this with CLW any more - it seems we're just worlds apart on the definition of "better person."

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sat, 12-27-2003 - 11:41am

I think the rest of your post belies your last paragraph.


For shame.

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sat, 12-27-2003 - 11:44am

Eileen, consider the source.


This is not worth your tears.

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Sat, 12-27-2003 - 12:13pm
Sorry, you are correct...must have been a brain frt...:-)
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Sat, 12-27-2003 - 12:17pm
I hope you are aware that by your posting you are giviing her exactally what she is seeking. She is not here to seriously post, she is here to distrupt in any way shape or form possible...and you have made her attempt quite successful. What does it matter what this poor sad soul who has nothing better to do that wander message boards (and probably chat rooms as well) trying to make people angry thinks or says? Simply sit back and laugh.

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