Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
| Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am |
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.
Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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http://www.oacas.org/whatsnew/newsstories/03/july/17childcare.pdf
"Maybe there are good effects,"..."Maybe day care increases children's arousal for leanring and being social. We don't know that yet, and it's important to look at the long-term effects. It's important to look at the complexity of the situation."
You are jumping to the conclusion that different = bad when all we know is there is a difference seen mostly in shy children. For all we know, it could turn out that dc helps shy children overcome being shy and increased stress hormones are part of that process. We don't know what this difference means yet. The jury is still out. Just because too much stress is bad doesn't mean any increase in stress is bad.
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2003/07/16/earlyshow/living/parenting/main563639.shtml
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Now, let's see. If my child has difficulty in group situations do I want to shelter him or help him learn to deal with it??? The problem isn't dc causing stress but some kids having difficulty in group situations. The problem is the child not dc. However, we have not established that this really is a problem. It could be part of the process of shy children learning to deal with groups. It could turn out to be a problem for shy children, in which case it will be something to watch out for. But none of this means dc is bad. At worst, it means measures need to be taken to help kids who don't deal with group situations well to cope with group situations. Personally, if I had a child who had difficulty with group situations, I'd want to address that prior to them starting school rather than shelter them from it.
Edited 12/28/2003 9:40:18 AM ET by cyndluagain
If the cost of mom working means time spent away from the kids and home, childcare expenses, greater workload for mom AND dad, then the amount of increased income that a family may not even need, is certainly no benefit, it's a detriment.
How you can't get that is beyond me.
Again, this assumes one values time spent with one's children. If that is worthless to you, you'll never see spending more time with your children as a benefit.
As usual, you miss the point.
She didn't say there was no benefit to education, only that the benefits do not result in someone being a "better" person.
My point is that the onus is on wohm to prove that DC isn't harmful. There has never been any onus on anyone to prove that sah isn't harmful because quite frankly, it IS universally seen as the ideal, despite CLW's protestations.
You aren't getting my point, but that's okay, it was late and maybe you were tired. Read again, and maybe you'll get it.
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