Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
| Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am |
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.
Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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You're really kidding yourself if you think the only way a parent can positively affect their family is through additional income. Higher income may not be bad for families, but if it comes at too high a non-monetary cost then yes, it's absolutely bad.
You do realize there is such a thing as costs that have nothing to do with actual money, don't you?
Care to explain why you think it's a waste to spend time with your children above the minimum required amount they need?
Does this mean you advocate the prescribing of highly addictive anti stress drugs?
How stress affects you is not 100% under your control. You can't decide that stress will or won't give you a heart attack simply by handling the stress the "right" way. On average stress shortens lifespans. That doesn't guarantee that any one person will have exactly the same outcome as another. But most of us try to do the things that we think will extend our lives. There are no guarantees.
Jenna
Your comments are all about coping with stress on an emotional level, and drugs for that,etc. You talk about FEELINGS, not physical affects. You can control your feelings to a certain extent, but the physical manifestations may still be there even if you are intact emotionally. You do not acknowledge any other affects of stress (non emotional). That's how I got that.
Jenna
Eileen-I admire you.
Jenna
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
We are talking about things that affect our kids that we're doing now. My stress level may very well affect whether I live to be 70 or 80 but it doesn't affect my kids now. Personally, I'd rather live a short life with lots of challenges than a long boring one.
BTW, I never said things that protect our futures aren't worth doing. I said our stress levels WRT money/jobs don't have to affect our kids. There are also more ways to deal with stress than quitting a job. You can exercise, meditate, take up a hobby or even medicate if you so desire. It's not the level of stress we're exposed to nearly as much as it's how we handle the stress we're exposed to.
BTW, I used to smoke. I quit when dh had his vas reversal. If we'd never had kids, I probably would have taken it up again but after 5 years of being pg or nursing cigarrettes were up to over $2.00 a pack. I have better things to do with my money, lol.
Edited 12/29/2003 1:02:38 PM ET by cyndluagain
Of course, when I turned 18 is another story but again, worked with 5 out of 6 kids. I'm the only one who ran off at 18 and sowed her wild oats. Can't knock odds like that.
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