Which came first, the title or the SAHW?

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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.

Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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Registered: 12-02-2003
Sun, 12-28-2003 - 10:10pm
I'm talking about the current crop of WM's who are positively impacting their family's finances. At least most of them are.
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Registered: 12-02-2003
Sun, 12-28-2003 - 10:15pm
As I said, post a link. I never said that. I have discussed having her ATTEND LATCHKEY for an hour or so a day as opposed to getting off of work in time to pick her up from school because she likes going to latch key, doesn't like being picked up 5 minutes after she gets there and needs to be in the habit of going just in case something were to happen and I didn't get home in time to pick her up. I have, to my knowledge, never discussed leaving her alone for a couple of hours a day after school. Not because I don't trust her. I don't trust the perverts out there. As far as she's concerned, I could do what my mom did with me. Give her so much to do that she has no choice but to get straight home and get it done. However, I don't think it's safe for a young girl to be alone in this world.
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Registered: 12-02-2003
Sun, 12-28-2003 - 10:17pm
LOL, because they're rich and can afford the luxury of SAH??? LOL. Many people who have no reason to work, don't.


Edited 12/28/2003 11:44:32 PM ET by cyndluagain
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Sun, 12-28-2003 - 10:18pm
LOL, nope. In GENERAL, it is a benefit. MOST WM's ARE positively impacting their family's finances.
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Registered: 12-02-2003
Sun, 12-28-2003 - 10:20pm
WHAT? I hope you don't call yourself a christian and say things like that. TOTAL BS.

Yes I concern myself with not being a burden to my kids when I'm old because I owe it to them not to be!!

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Sun, 12-28-2003 - 10:35pm
>>LOL, nope. In GENERAL, it is a benefit. MOST WM's ARE positively impacting their >>family's finances.

Okay, I get that having two incomes increases a family's income (duh) and I realize that since I have a BA I could probably go work somewhere other than a minimum wage job and bring in decent money and we would have nicer things, etc.

BUT in MY case my boys are only 2 and 5, so in 3 years both my boys will be in school and I will only be 31. At that time my DH will be earning enough to easily support the whole family as an RN, since we are already used to living off his income as a CNA. So, my entire income at that time can go towards retirement, college funds, and frills.

I guess the point I'm trying to get across is that each family's situation is different and while its common sense that dual WOHP's does increase finances, some families choose to make it on one income for a short time. There can also be benefits to that situation.

I know that if I WOH now I could probably afford to send DS to a great pre school that centered on learning, but what would be the point? He will already know how to read and write before kindegarten and his Step Dad is teaching him the guitar (we let him choose). Of course I realize not ever SAHP spends as much time with their children on these things, but not every SAHP uses this time to sit on the couch and watch soaps either.


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Registered: 12-02-2003
Sun, 12-28-2003 - 10:42pm
No, not paranoid. Just read enough of your posts. And I believe you were a SAHM??? Or are you changing that story?


Edited 12/28/2003 10:45:39 PM ET by cyndluagain
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Sun, 12-28-2003 - 10:44pm
Nope.
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Sun, 12-28-2003 - 10:47pm
LOL, Um coping with the stress reduces the physical manifestation and you know it.
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Mon, 12-29-2003 - 12:11am
I never said that keeping kids busy didnt help as well. There are many factors to consider. Again, not having my child come home to an empty house is just one of many things we plan to do. And why on earth would you say that being home when your child gets home would make them not want to bring their friends home? What, have them come home to an empty house AND bring their friends???? Yeah, that would help keep them out of trouble. My dd brings friends home all the time-they actually enjoy our home, even WITH an adult there! amazing.

And I certainly wouldnt recommend forced babysitting as a good way to make kids stay out of trouble. You've certainly said the same thing in the past.

dj


Edited 12/29/2003 12:17:27 AM ET by djknappsak

Dj

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