Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
| Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am |
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.
Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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I work because working makes me a better person. Being in business for myself means I have to be responsible, dedicated, hard working, honest, and trustworthy.
But then again, I can be all that simply by being a MOM."
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But aren't you working not just for "stuff," but for better financial stability for your whole family?
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You're talking past each other.
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You don't have to agree with them, but you can at least respect them.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
You can't have it both ways. I think that anything that might shorten YOUR lifespan hurts your kids. I am not saying you can't mitigate some of the immediate affects of stress on your children, but the fact is that stress shortens lives. If you are doing something that affects your lifespan you ARE affecting your kids. Don't you think you kids benefit from having you alive as long as possible?
I am not discussing short term challenges, but rather constant exposure to very high levels of stress. I agree that we can all take measures to mitigate the affects of the inevitable amounts of stress we must deal with in order to live interesting lives. But there are many people for whom combining a career and parenthood is a CONSTANT stream of stress that cannot be dealt with simply by meditating. There are probably an equal number of people who feel suffoctated by being home all the time and suffer a never ending stream of stress from that. I don't see the stress problem as problem that only affects working parents.
However, I do think that if there is a constant stream of stress in your live that just meditating or excercising will not be enough to keep it from affecting your life.
Jenna
Wait now - I did not say, nor do I believe, that ALL families would be better off with an $80K household income rather than a $40K one.
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Jenna
Let's look at some of the sahm's or former sahm's here if we want to look at the "typical" circumstances of a sahm or an almost sahm. 1969 Jets, cocoapop, cindytree, mygarnetboy, dj (who I consider practically a sahm), or mygriffin who only works p/t. All of them could "positively impact their family's finances", some very significantly, yet all have beautiful, healthy, happy families, lovely homes and certainly don't appear to be lacking for anything. They choose to work less or not at all, and are reaping the benefits of being home most of the time.
Nothing CLW says can convince me that their families would benefit from them woh FT. Nothing.
My stance has always been, and will remain, that there can be benefit to EITHER woh or sah. It has to be taken on a case by case basis, looking at each family individually. There is NO INHERENT benefit to EITHER choice.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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