Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
| Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am |
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.
Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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When I said I don't work for money, what I meant was I'm not motivated by salary alone. Of course I work so I can help pay the bills. But I gain a great deal more from my work -- that is what I was trying to say. I'm not working for money alone nor am I looking to "increase" our SES or upgrade our lifestyle. It's pretty fine just the way it is.
outside_the_box_mom
Let's see, eliminating childcare expenses, maintaining the home, running errands, cooking more, chauffering the children, freeing up time for their working spouses, being home for repairmen or workers, volunteering at their children's schools, having more time to read to kids, taking the children to the park, beach, museums, library, cleaning the home, some mow (not me, but some do!), being able to stay home with a sick child without juggling a work schedule or appointments.....I'm sure there are more, in fact there's a whole thread on it running, check it out.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
So cocoapop isn't capable of earning enough? I wasn't (I was an engineer, like you), jenna wasn't? My friends who were pediatricians and attorneys weren't?
They CAN earn money, lot's of money. Obviously they (we) all felt we were of more benefit to our families by staying home.
Sure, your provider can do that for you, too, I suppose. But wouldn't you rather do it yourself? And have all that lovely time with your child? Time you don't have to "schedule" in around work, and grad school, and household chores and the whole bit?
The benefit is that my son has MEMORIES of our time together. Better than the memories of watching stupid Disney movies at daycare.
outside_the_box_mom
Yep, us WOHM's dont take our kids to the park or have wonderful memories with our children.
For someone who claims to be an "outside the box mom" you surely do see things very black and white.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
i thought i knew you better than that.
eileen
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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