Which Is Easier?

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Registered: 04-06-2008
Which Is Easier?
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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 2:03pm

What do you think is easier? Being a SAHM or being a working mother? I've done both but only worked part time. I think they are both hard, It was hard trying to juggle work and home when I was working, but being at home all day is enough to drive you crazy. Talking to nobody over the age of 5 for 10 hours a day, and doing the same thing day after day.


My husband took a week off of work after our second dd was born, and by the end of the week doing everything that I would normally do, (I had a csection, I was no use to anybody) he said he had never realized just how much has to be done every day and he wanted to just go back to work.


So what is your opinion? What is harder, being at home, or working? Or are they tied, just different?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 2:13pm

It depends on so many things.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 3:01pm

I agree with the PP. It depends on the ages and number of kids, and the temperament of the parent. Those first few years with young kids are very hard on a SAH who is used to working, but it gets easier after that.


In general though, I'd say WOHMs have it harder, even if they outsource stuff like cleaning and yard work.

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Registered: 09-05-2007
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 3:54pm
Either one can be harder. It depends on way too many things. What kind of job? How many kids? What types of issues do the kids have? What are the hours of the job? etc.
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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 3:57pm

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 5:04pm

I don't know about easier or harder, but I think it's generally more complicated to be a working mom, simply because everything still needs to get done (housework, pediatrician visits, errands), and a full time work schedule places major limitations on when you can get them done.

That said, there is nothing easy about trying to entertain small children all day, every day while getting chores and errands done, and that gets even harder if you don't have the funds to take them places that cost money. You can only do crafts or go to the park so many times before you long for something different like Karate lessons or Gymboree.








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Registered: 08-27-2007
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 5:25pm

Depends on the situation. Staying at home with 4 kids is NOT easy. Working while raising 4 kids would be hard also.


I think that trying to get 4 kids to dayacre/home port etc would be hrader and more $ then having them come home after school b/c I am home.


BUT, my 2 girls (I have 2 girls and 2 boys) are a full time job EACH.


So I feel I work a pretty full-time job at home.


I can see how a working mum would feel as though she never had tome off either. So we are probably pretty close when you look at it from both views.

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 6:35pm

I think in my particular circumstances, it would be much harder to work than SAH.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 7:02pm

It depends. It depends on the financial situation. It depends on the personalities of both parents....and each child. It depends on the number of children. It depends on the number of hours worked. It depends on the ages of the children. It depends on the spacing of the children. It depends on if the children have any disabilities. It depends on if one or both parents travel -alot. It depends on the support network available. It depends on the stress level of the job or jobs.

I had an easy woh arrangement and I have an easy sah arrangement. Before the kids were in school- woh was easier (for me), now that the kids are in school- sah is easier.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 8:35pm

"That said, there is nothing easy about trying to entertain small children all day, every day while getting chores and errands done, and that gets even harder if you don't have the funds to take them places that cost money. You can only do crafts or go to the park so many times before you long for something different like Karate lessons or Gymboree."


This is true, but fortunately, they're only that small for a few years. Kindergarten comes very quickly!

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 8:57pm
Thank goodness for schools, LOL!!!







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