Which Is Easier?

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Which Is Easier?
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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 2:03pm

What do you think is easier? Being a SAHM or being a working mother? I've done both but only worked part time. I think they are both hard, It was hard trying to juggle work and home when I was working, but being at home all day is enough to drive you crazy. Talking to nobody over the age of 5 for 10 hours a day, and doing the same thing day after day.


My husband took a week off of work after our second dd was born, and by the end of the week doing everything that I would normally do, (I had a csection, I was no use to anybody) he said he had never realized just how much has to be done every day and he wanted to just go back to work.


So what is your opinion? What is harder, being at home, or working? Or are they tied, just different?

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 9:01pm

it depends on the person,the circumstances,etc.

 

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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 11:44pm

Your question doesn't have a definitive answer. There are way too many varibles involved. The personalities of the sahp, the personalities and # of children, the ages of said children, household income and expenditures, where the family lives, what lifestyle the family wants to live, their goals and expectations, etc.

For my family, there have been times when a sahp was needed and times when 2 incomes were needed. Neither one (outside the special circumstances of Erica) was better/best over the other.

Chris

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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 11:54pm

I don't think there is an answer to that question. Too many variables as others have pointed out.
I work 60+ hours a week with a high stress, but highly lucrative career. Is it "hard?" Not compared to being any number of other things I can think of. Is it "hard" compared to most 9-5 jobs? Yep. But only depending on your definition.
I SAH with my premiee twins for 14 months. Was that "hard?" No. it was a real labor of love to me. Was it "hard" compared to my 3 months at home with my past due date, big new son? I guess, yes.
Is it "hard" to work, breast feed and pump while I'm away; have three under 5; and a high pressure job? I guess...but its also great...


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Registered: 10-04-2007
Tue, 05-06-2008 - 4:39am

Most of the time, WOHM.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Tue, 05-06-2008 - 9:37am
worked full time and part time never SAH. Part time seems to be like the best of both worlds to me.
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Registered: 10-13-2007
Tue, 05-06-2008 - 12:06pm

I think it depends on a number of things. I have done both woh and sah when my kids were at different ages. When they were younger I thought it was harder to woh trying to juggle daycare or work hours with my husband and the kids activities. But woh when they were

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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 3:43pm

We working moms have it a bit easier because of the child care we've arranged. I often do errands and grocery shopping at night because my son's day care is open until 6:00 p.m. SAHMs with small kids usually tote them out for all the errands. Of course, it is a challenge to spend some time with my son. I try to do activities with him when I pick him up, typically 5:00 p.m. and then have the dinner, baths, bedtime, preparing for next day that all parents do.

It depends on the age of the child. My son is 3 and I do miss him.

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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 4:06pm
But I know a lot of SAHMs who have kids in school or who have regular childcare.

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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 7:02pm
Totally depends.
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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 11:23pm

For my family, my going back to work ft, didn't mean I got the 2nd shift when I got home. Actually, it meant that I did less. With both dh and me working ft, the home chores are spit between us with our kids getting their share according to age and ability. And their share of chores aren't dependent on my or dh's work status.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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