Which Is Easier?

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Which Is Easier?
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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 2:03pm

What do you think is easier? Being a SAHM or being a working mother? I've done both but only worked part time. I think they are both hard, It was hard trying to juggle work and home when I was working, but being at home all day is enough to drive you crazy. Talking to nobody over the age of 5 for 10 hours a day, and doing the same thing day after day.


My husband took a week off of work after our second dd was born, and by the end of the week doing everything that I would normally do, (I had a csection, I was no use to anybody) he said he had never realized just how much has to be done every day and he wanted to just go back to work.


So what is your opinion? What is harder, being at home, or working? Or are they tied, just different?

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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 12:44am

It would be nice to sack out at 7:30, while my husband fought the baby to sleep for once. "


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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 12:26pm

"My Son probably wouldn't depend on me so much if I worked, which would maybe make life a little easier in some aspects, as even at 16 months he will only fall asleep for me, even though he sleeps in the crib. It would be nice to sack out at 7:30, while my husband fought the baby to sleep for once. "


That has nothing to do with your work status but with how you set it up in your

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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 12:29pm

from the time liza was an infant David and I alternated putting her to bed so she could be comfy going to sleep with eithe rmom or dad around -- flash forward to when she was five and we got divorce d-- made for a MUCH easier transition b/c dad had been doign dinner bath and bed for years.

of course the"which is easier" choice is the one I often think longingly of -- the no child whatsoever option LOL

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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 12:34pm
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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 12:36pm

I still hold out hope that Madonna or Angelina Jolie may want to adopt a pudgy pouty mouthy 9 year old ;-)

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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 1:26pm
I think if one's children are already in school all day long, then SAH is much easier.
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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 9:20pm
Not 40 hours less to make up for the 40 hours you lost to working.
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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 9:21pm
Statistically speaking, women do about twice as much as men around the house when she works full time.
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Sun, 05-11-2008 - 11:14am

I had already been doing the 40 hour week plus half the chores before we had children. After we had children, I only added in the half of the child related chores (plus all the breastfeeding; although dh did give bottles to Joy and Dylan) when I went back to work. It was only during the sah days with Erica and Angela that I did most of the chores at home while dh had the 40 hour work gig. And even then, we lived first in a condo and later in an apt. so there were no outside chores to do. And Joy was 6 and beginning to pull her own weight with chores and helping with her sisters.

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Sun, 05-11-2008 - 12:34pm

I agree. After 10 years of parenting 3 kids they all were in school full time this year and I was having a ball! Sure, I had to do all the cooking, cleaning, carpooling, but I also have 7 hours to myself each school day. Now that we are expecting our little surprise in August, I have to give up my good life!

For me, I think WOH would be much more physically draining-if everything I did all day had to be done after 6pm, I might go nuts. But I also think that for me SAH has been mentally draining-I am not a kid, I don't want to spend 12 hours a day playing house/legos/dress-up/cars.

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