Which Is Easier?

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Which Is Easier?
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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 2:03pm

What do you think is easier? Being a SAHM or being a working mother? I've done both but only worked part time. I think they are both hard, It was hard trying to juggle work and home when I was working, but being at home all day is enough to drive you crazy. Talking to nobody over the age of 5 for 10 hours a day, and doing the same thing day after day.


My husband took a week off of work after our second dd was born, and by the end of the week doing everything that I would normally do, (I had a csection, I was no use to anybody) he said he had never realized just how much has to be done every day and he wanted to just go back to work.


So what is your opinion? What is harder, being at home, or working? Or are they tied, just different?

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Wed, 05-14-2008 - 12:09pm
Would the role of WOH be harder if not impossible when it IS necessary, too, or does the fact that one is working by choice make it harder if not impossible?
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Wed, 05-14-2008 - 1:47pm

<Statistically speaking, women do about twice as much as men around the house when she works full time.>


Maybe this is true but definatly this depends on the relationship of the couple.

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Wed, 05-14-2008 - 2:32pm
It just all depends on the circumstances. For me, SAH (well, I was in school PT, but that was when the kids were in school) was more difficult, but at the time, my dh worked 300 miles away, 2 weeks at a time. WOH FT has been a breeze, but my dh has been SAH for the most part, and taking care of the cooking/cleaning/driving the kids around. I know that both of those situations are out of the ordinary, but since everyone's circumstances are so different, it just can't be said which is harder.
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Thu, 05-15-2008 - 1:02am

>I know that both of those situations are out of the ordinary, but since everyone's circumstances are so different, it just can't be said which is harder. <

So true. Sah/wah with Erica was hard; woh with her would have been impossible. Woh with Dylan is a breeze compared with sah/wah with him. Sah/wah/woh with Joy and Angela would have been a toss up. Any of them would have worked with their personalities. It would have literally been up to me as to which I wanted to do. And if it had been up to me, I would have chosen either wah or woh and not sah. But that is my personality. Reality is that Erica needed/required a sah/wah (and homeschooling); Dylan needed the activity of a dc (and public school). We were also very blessed to have Joy and Angela who both had personalities that just went with the flow.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Mon, 05-19-2008 - 6:55pm

I've done both too. Let me put it this way. At the office, I could go to the bathroom whenever I wanted and no one stuck their fingers under the door and cried. Plus I could eat my food while it was still warm. wow.


But... you gotta love the fingers under the door.

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Mon, 05-19-2008 - 7:06pm
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Mon, 05-19-2008 - 7:10pm
VERY true actually. Now i work half day in the office, half day at home. I am more productive at home with 3 kids. At work sometimes i think i have a lot more kids than that!
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Mon, 05-19-2008 - 11:08pm

I've done both too. Let me put it this way. At the office, I could go to the bathroom whenever I wanted and no one stuck their fingers under the door and cried.


OMG - you can close the door and keep them out!

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 11:13pm

So true. Which is why I get paid for lunch. But at least at work, I don't get Dylan talking to me from clear across the house through the closed bathroom door.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Tue, 05-20-2008 - 7:44am

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