Which Is Harder???

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Registered: 06-07-2007
Which Is Harder???
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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 1:53pm

Hi everyone...Do you think that is is harder work to be a stay-at-home mom or a working mom. I heard this topic being discussed on a radio talk show this morning and I thougt it would be interesting to get everyones thoughts and opinions on this subject. For me I work part-time and I have to say that I feel like my time I spend at work is much easier than my time spent at home with my daughter. I am usually much more exhausted after a day of taking care of my daughter than I am after a day of work (which by the way I work at a bank) Anyways I am just curious to hear what everyone thinks about this subject.

Jess

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 1:58pm
I think Life is hard -- it's all about how you deal with it and how much you can laugh about it that gets you through it. I don't waste time worrying about which is harder and I don't really care b/c the answer is as unique as each one of us..... I dont' waste time worrying about how other people's kids are raised..I go to work (fulltime) I take care of my daughter and I laugh alot.... life is good.

 

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Registered: 06-07-2007
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 2:07pm
Well I do agree that everyone's situation is different and each individual handle stress or hard work in different ways. I also think that their are certain jobs that are more difficult than others. For example my sister is a doctor and I would say that her job is far more diffcult than mine is working in a bank. I am more asking for each individuals opinion if they do work or use to work...would they consider the job that they do harder than when they are staying home with their children or the same.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 2:11pm

Being a SAHM was harder for me ... that's part of why I WOH.

But it's a different answer for every woman. there isn't one role that is universally harder.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 2:14pm
but that's what i'm answering-- my answer is I work full time and I have no idea if staying home would be harder b/c if I stayed home that would be my reality and I'd have no idea if working was harder. i wouldn't waste anytime comparing or even considering it.

 

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Registered: 06-07-2007
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 2:23pm
I see what you are saying. I guess because I have been in the position of doing both I have something to compare, I get what you are saying now though. Thanks
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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 3:40pm
It all depends on the child and the work. I am more physically tired after a day with the kids but more mentally tired after work.
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Registered: 06-07-2007
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 3:59pm
I am probably more mentally tired after a day at work too...but overall I would say my job being a mother is more challenging and is harder work. I think alot of times stay-at-home moms are not given enough credit for all that they do and for how hard they really do work. Even though I find my job away from home easier, I wish that I could stay at home full-time..I hate being away from my baby.
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Registered: 05-14-2006
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 6:15pm

For me the age of the children has much more with how easy/hard it is than work status. I was a SAHM for 12.5 years. Having infants/toddlers was rough but once they got to pre-school/school age it became much easier.

When I first went back to work (my kids were 12.5, 10.5 and 6) I have always had jobs that require hard physical labor so at the end of the day I am just plain tired and it was rough at times to continue to work doing the things that needed to be done for my family/household.

As my kids aged my household work load got less, even though I come home just as tired it is easier because I have more down time at home.

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Registered: 05-14-2006
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 6:18pm

"I am more physically tired after a day with the kids but more mentally tired after work."

With me it's the opposite.

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 6:30pm
I have been a SAHM for two years and a WOHM for two years. I found SAHM harder but more rewarding work. I also have two step daughters (16 and 19) who I met when they were 5 and 8. They only stayed with us on weekends but I know SAHM work probably gets less tiring as the kids get older.

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