Who is a "full-time mom"?

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Who is a "full-time mom"?
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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 1:33pm
What does everyone think of the phrase "full-time mom." I WOH and when I hear this phrase applied to sahms I want to scream. I even see it becoming a standard phrase. I was reading my college sorority's alumni website and there were things like "Julie worked in marketing for 5 years, but after Carrie was born she quit work to be a full-time mommy." I am a full-time mom in every sense of the word--

Jenn

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 1:55pm
Amen to that! It irks me to hear that phrase constantly associated w/ sahms. Now I fall under the special category of single moms. People tend to play that whole "you have two full time jobs" deal w/ single moms. I really don't feel that way at all. I work about as hard as everyone else and, yes, I do a lot of things by myself that others would have help with but I don't see it as having two full-time jobs. I have one full-time job and a life. I don't think of my life in terms of work, which makes that "full-time mommy" deal so ridiculous to me. Being a mom isn't a job to me. It isn't work, it's what I do. Yes, it takes effort but that's about the only corrolation I see btw a job and my role as a mother. Maybe I'm crazy.
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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 1:58pm
I agree I am a mom 24/7 from the day my son was born and will continue to be one long after they have gone out on their own. There are NO exceptions for me on this topic. DJ

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 2:01pm
I don't think you're crazy at all! Being a mom is not a "job." It's work, yes. But it's a part of my being, not a job.
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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 2:10pm
You go girl ... Linda, n/t

 

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 3:02pm
I HATE THE TERM. And yes I meant to shout!

IMO every mother is a full time mother. Being a mother isn't really something you DO it's something you ARE. My mother still considers herself a full time mother even though my brother and I have both been out of the house for quite some time now.

Jenna

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 3:34pm
It does not bother me. In most cases it is not meant to be rude but just another way of saying SAHM.
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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 3:37pm
It's a way to make SAHMs look busy.

I don't think SAHMs need justification for their lifestyle, but that's what I think the term is becoming.

As my grandmother used to say, you'll worry about your babies from the minute they're born until the day you die. Every mother is a full time mother.

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 3:46pm
YUCK, I don't like that term at all. I am a SAHM I used to be a WOHM, but I have always been a full time mom. I didn't stop being a mom while I was at work or while I was taking college courses any more than I stop being a mom when I go to the grocery store with out my kids or when they are at school. I suppose the term came about to deter the feeling that SAHM's don't work. So I guess when people started saying they worked full time out of the home, the response was "I am a full time mom" Frankly if you have children you work, period.

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 3:53pm
I wouldn't refer to myself as such....to me it sounds as if you're not secure enough in your role and are looking to justify to others why you're at home. I don't have to justify anything to anyone. I am quite content to be what I am....and right now that's a sahm.
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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 4:06pm
Makes you wonder why no one ever coined the phrase "part-time dad".

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