Who has an easier transition?

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Who has an easier transition?
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Fri, 07-17-2009 - 10:29am
Who do you think has an easier transition: the SAHM re-entering the workforce? Or the WOHM staying home for the first time? Why?

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Fri, 07-17-2009 - 2:08pm
Yep, I totally agree *for me* anyway.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-17-2009 - 2:14pm
Totally depends. I quit to sah when my first was born, and I found the transition fairly easy. I wasn't planning to sah more than a year, so I didn't feel stressed about career or money, and taking care of one relatively easy baby seemed pretty easy to me, coming from a stressful career (attorney in private practice). By the time I went back to work, my kids were older (6 and 4), and I went back pt, so it was also a fairly easy transition. I think that if I'd gone back ft, or if my job had been less flexible, or if I hadn't been ready to go back, it probably would have been a different story. I'm not sure I could ever go back to a really structured, ft or ft+ job--sah kind of ruined me for that.;)
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Fri, 07-17-2009 - 5:00pm

I'm confused. Aren't they pretty much the same people? The WOHM leaving to stay home for the first time is likely to become the SAHM returning to work after a hiatus in seven to ten years, right?

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Registered: 05-10-2009
Fri, 07-17-2009 - 8:39pm

Depends on what you mean by easier.

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Fri, 07-17-2009 - 8:42pm

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Sat, 07-18-2009 - 1:56am

WOHMs because we all wear the same thing, think the same thing, act the same way and go to the same restaurants for $250 lunches every day. When we speak, we speak as one universal voice. When we vote, we vote as one. We are interchangable and completely indistinguishable, one from another, hence when we go home full time, our kids don't know if it's us or the WOHM next door.

Wait, what? We're not all exactly the same? Oh, well, then, it's impossible to answer the question, because each woman, each child, each father, each family and each situation is different and one's ability to adapt does not lie in one's employment status.

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Sat, 07-18-2009 - 2:00am
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Sat, 07-18-2009 - 2:02am

You can't be her dh's equal; he has a penis and therefore, a Godly divine right to abandon his children into the care of someone other than himself.

If God wanted women to work outside the home, he wouldn't attach them to our bodies with an umbilical cord.

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Registered: 08-25-2008
Sun, 07-19-2009 - 3:43pm
Neither transition is hard unless forced.
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Registered: 04-22-2005
Sun, 07-19-2009 - 9:38pm
Just because something is wanted doesn't mean it isn't a difficult transition. I wanted children and I love being a mother, but I would never in a million years say that making the transition from being childless to being a parent wasn't hard.













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