Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Who has influenced your sah/woh
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm |
opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.
We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!


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Open enrollment. Kids who live in the neighborhood get first choice at their own schools, but you can send your kids to any school in the district, as long as they have room. We didn't have any trouble getting into the school we wanted. The district also has magnet programs, and we will likely use one of those for middle school.
I don't "make" my dh commute longer--he prefers living in the city too and doesn't mind commuting--and we absolutely prefer our city school district to the "top district" in the suburbs. There's no racial or economic diversity there, and these things matter to us. I want my kids to grow up somewhere where there's some diversity (although I will admit that we also prefer the homogeneity of political beliefs in the city, which is heavily democratic, vs. the suburbs). I don't think the schools in the "best district" are really any better than the better schools in our city district, and I don't think my kids would do any better there than they will at the school we've chosen, which we love. I just can't define "best" based on test scores, which imo say more about demographics than they do about the schools themselves.
And if we did move to the "top district," dh's commute would be *much* worse than it is now. The top district is in in the south suburbs and dh works in the north suburbs, so his commute would be impossible. If we moved to the north suburbs, we also wouldn't see either of our families like we do now--his lives in the south suburbs, and mine live in the city, just a few minutes away from us.
It's not so much that we dislike the idea of living in the suburbs so much--it's just not the right place for us. We live in a great little neighborhood that is close to everything. There are places we can walk to. Our kids go to a small school where everybody knows everybody. We're 15 minutes from downtown and one mile from a large university that has all sorts of activities. It's great for us--except for dh's commute, and even that isn't a big deal if he drives instead of using public transportation.
It's similar here, except that the regular schools have open enrollment too. Some of the "best" schools can be hard to get into, but we didn't have trouble getting into the school we chose.
Yes, I just typed a long post to pnj, but you're absolutely right--we just prefer living in the city, and luckily, my dh doesn't mind commuting.
I'll just add to what's already been said that teenagers often make decisions for the wrong reasons. Their emotions are all over the place. What means something to one partner in a sexual relationship may not mean the same thing to the other partner, and at that age, that can be devastating. And frankly, if having sex at 15 makes one grow up believing that the goal is to have as much sexual experience as possible, I'm even more glad that I didn't have sex at 15.
I'm still waiting to hear what the pro to teen sex is. There's nothing you can do at 15 that you can't do when you're older.
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