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Who has influenced your sah/woh
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm |
opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.
We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!


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"And yes, I would feel threatened if my children consistently called for my DH at night and ran to him automatically with scrapes and bruises."
They don't run to him automatically with scrapes / bruises...in fact DS runs almost exlusively to me...and DD about 50% of the time. As for calling out at night....DD calls whoever 'put' her down. DS calls for both of us. But when they *do* call for DH I don't feel threatened. Why would you? I wouldnt even if they called him 100% of the time. But then I didnt feel the need for a prenup either.
Most girls I went to school with in high school (and inner city high school) had sex to fit in. I had about 500 kids in my graduating class (over 200 had dropped out or flunked their senior year) and we had at least 30 girls either pregnant or had children by the time they graduated. None of them were old enough to handle the consequences. None of them had sex b/c of maturity. We had girls in gangs who had sex to fit in. We had girls having sex and babies b/c that is what their mothers did. All of them needed to go on welfare. It is a vicous and sad cycle. I was not allowed to date until 16 and that took a lot of pressure off of me. I had friends sign my yearbook to "the last American Virgin". I was very involved in afterschool activities and didn't feel like I was missing much. I knew I was going to college (only 10% of my graduating class did go) and did not want to mess anything up. When I met my dh and we decided to have sex, I was in college and felt mature enough. We were both committed enough and I knew if anything did happen he would not run.
Maybe it is just my experience in the type of environment I grew up with in my high school. But, I never equated teen sex with maturity.
i really dont think she feels she limited herself at all - she got the life she wanted. true, she did not attend college, nor did her husband, yet they are wealthy enough that her husband is not yet 50 and has been retired for 2 or 3 years now.
she has seen more of the world than most people, they take yearly vacations out of the country, she spends alot of time going around the u.s to various antique shows, collecting antique toys is her passion and they are constantly going out to vegas, another hobby they share.
it would appear she didnt have the need to live independantly that some others have. i think the key is had she been interested in, i dont see where her getting married so young has prevented her from following her passions.
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Ohhh, we would love that also. My family loves, loves camping. Of course, I am a big weanie and well not do tents but we love staying at campgrounds. We were talking of Disney this summer nad my kids kept saying how much they would rather go camping. I hate Disney in the summer anyway so we are going next spring (jzygayle told me about a campground there and canot wait to check it out) and camping up near Knoebels in PA (about 3 hours from where I live).
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So if you don't do tents, where do you sleep when you camp?
What I really like is backpacking, but that's hard to do with kids who can't carry much yet. So we mostly car camp. If we do the campground host thing someday, I guess we'll have to trade in our tent for some kind of popup camper or rv.
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