Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:18pm
I'm sure you're right. In the end, my dds will make their own choices about sex and about many other things, but I hope they will consider what we've discussed and the values they've grown up with. My parents were not as open about these things as I plan to be with my own teens, but their influence was still a big part of why I didn't have sex as a teen.
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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:19pm
I wasn't aware that people differ in the way their bodies use carbohydrates unless they have diabetes or a pre-diabetic condition. Do you have any evidence that your dd is unusual in the way she metabolizes carbohydrates?
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:20pm

"Are you estranged from your parents?"

Not at all. Why do you ask?

But to answer your question, I am very close to my mother. My dad is deceased.

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:23pm

You hadn't said they get 2 slices of toast plus a bowl of oatmeal in the morning plus
a sandwich for lunch. What you said was that they get cheerios for breakfast and a sandwich for lunch.

If you go to any website showing the food pyramid for kids, you'll see that the recommendation for kids 2 to 6 is 4 to 6 servings of bread or grains, so no, I'm not the only one who says so. The reason a range is given is that a 6yo typically is hungrier than a 2yo.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:28pm

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"Not you specifically, but I think teenagers can lose the following by becoming sexually active so young:"

Thank you for your "Not you specifically" comment. I appreciate that. Very big of you :)

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:30pm

"1. They grow up too fast and lose interest in more age appropriate endeavors."

Hmm, So at what age do you think sex becomes age appropriate?

Is there some special, magic, normal, objectively right age at which sex suddenly becomes appropriate?

BTW, WHO specifically gets to decide how old is old enough?

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:31pm
i remember seeing a dr phil show one day and there was this woman on there who actually counted out the number of cheetos her kids had so they equaled exactly what the bag said was one serving. my thought was the woman needs a life. and her kids said they were always hungry. i just dont hink i can know when another person is hungry. i would hate it if someone were always telling me i couldnt have something to eat - of course i might be better off :)
Jennie
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:33pm

"2. They grow up too fast because they have to be concerned about preventing pg and STDs and have to be emotionally mature enough to handle the feelings that result."

Heck, you've just described a good number of *adults* in our society :)

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:34pm

>>do you honestly think i am bringing out a text book when i talk to my kids about sex i am talking to her about things<<
i don't know...are you? i do believe my church has a great sound stage for this topic, it coincides with the topic of drugs and alchohol too. i think that's great and i trust what they teach..i'm not the parent you think that tells my child that the facts behind such casual activities are only found in textbooks though.

>>where is it you think my daughter is not getting influences <<
i never said she wasn't getting influences or impressions from you...my difference is that influences and impressions matter more than textbook knowledge. what part of my opinion don't you understand?

>>choice that they make and you have refused to even acknowledge the question<<
yes i have answered it. IMO, IT'S NOT ABOUT A CHOICE. sure, it's my child's decision to make, just like i can't control the friends my child makes. but instead of talking choice, i'm more comfortable talking responsibilities, confidence to make right decisions instead of wrong decisions, directions i've taken in my own life and why i took them, that fitting in is not about participating in pressures of what other kids are doing. etc.

do you believe that sex is a normal rite of passage for a teenager or do you believe it is a peer pressure thing? curious...really.

 

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:36pm

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"3. I assume in most households a 15 year old who is having regular sex would be constantly sneaking around and finding surreptitious places to engage in intercourse - very stressful."

Hmm, I thought the focus was on what "teenagers can lose by becoming sexually active so young?"

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