Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:51pm
gummy snacks, as in fruit snacks? i actually got all up in arms earlier this year when my dd1/1st grader was told to *not* bring gummy fruit snacks as a snack anymore. these are clearly stamped 100 percent real fruit. i found nothing wrong with the snack idea, but rules are rules i suppose.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:53pm
I'm going to decline to share my personal experience, but I do believe it's much healthier emotionally and physically for the vast majority of people to begin to have sex at an age older than 15.

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Registered: 09-08-2003
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:53pm
Trial and error, talking with her ped, doing food diaries, experimenting with different combos of foods at different times.
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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:54pm
Do you think the average 15 year old is mature enough to be sexually active?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:55pm

"I am under no illusions whatsoever that this is indeed a distinct possibility."


She's, what, 11?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:56pm

And I now understand why you didn't need a prenup - you and he each came into the marriage with lots of money. That's not an issue of trust."

No, he had "lots of money" I had exactly $113k to my name. I remember as I checked it all out before we combined accounts. The money coming to me will come when my folks pass away. They are healthy as horses. I'm hoping that's not for years and years.

We didnt have a prenup because we trust eachother...shock shock. Just like I don't feel 'threatened' by my own husbands relationship with our children.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:57pm

<<"Likewise, why do you assume that they won't be ready? What if your teens are ready and in fact do choose to have sex regardless of whether you agree or not? What then?>>

"I assume that because I've never known a 15 year old who was emotionally or financially ready to begin sexual activity at that age. Obviously, it's their choice, but any way they look at it - adoption, abortion or raising a child - pg is tough on a 15 year old."

And how many 21 year old adults (using your definition of adult) do you think fit your description LOL :)

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:58pm

"But having sex does not always mean being promiscuous. Promiscuous means having lots of sex partners (generally in a short period of time)."

Yes :)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:59pm

But you surely got your liberal views from somewhere.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:59pm

bwah..can i sit on that boring and old fashioned bench with you?

sex at 15 is a negative consequence to a relationship imo.....if it was something we should permit and just say oh dear daughter or dear son, it's your choice, good luck, kiss kiss and move on, then kids wouldn't be *doing it* in alleys, sneaking out to do it or doing it at someone elses home where mommy and daddys aren't home..kwim?

 

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