Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 1:24pm

IMO, camping is staying in a hotel without room service :)

Robin

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 1:24pm

But did you feel like your parents even knew the facts? Did you feel like you could ask them questions and get real answers? Or was it simply not discussed at home?

One thing my dd knows is that she can get a straight, factual answer from me about just about anything. And if I dont know the answer, I know where to find it. I think she values that.

dj

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 1:25pm
Considering that teens are adults for 2 years (18 and 19), I think it's a pretty typical rite of passage. I suspect that people are using "teen" when they actually mean "highschool student". And it is more than a rite of passage. It is a hormonal imperative. When you try to talk a highschool student (notice I didn't say teen) out of sex, you are arguing against more than mere peer pressure. You are arguing against biology itself. Which is a big part of the reason the "pro" feelings they are likely having need to be acknowledged. Pretending that there isn't an incredibly strong biological drive involved is just whisteling in the dark. You have to convince them NOT to listen to what their bodies are telling them to do, so you'd better have some pretty compelling reasons to share with them.
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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 1:26pm

Just curious...why do you follow almost every statement with LOL:)?

Robin

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 1:27pm

i am not going to rely on my daughter sharing everything either, though to date she shares more than most i would guess. but that i cant expect her to share everything with me is why i feel it is so important that she have not only my views but the facts to guide her. and i can honestly say based on our conversations that if/when my daughter chooses/decides to become sexually active i dont believe it will not be based on peer pressure.

i knew exactly where my mother stood on teen sex, she told us that it was immoral and that if we ever got pregnant she would send us to a home for unwed mothers, know what, it didnt stop me from having sex as a teenager (19)when i felt the time was right.
Jennie

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 1:27pm

NO I didn't say cheerios for breakfast and a sandwich for lunch. Even if I did that is still 4 servings. I am not sure why this is so hard for you to understand.

****If you go to any website showing the food pyramid for kids, you'll see that the recommendation for kids 2 to 6 is 4 to 6 servings of bread or grains, so no, I'm not the only one who says so. The reason a range is given is that a 6yo typically is hungrier than a 2yo.****

That is what I have been saying all along. You keep insisting that it is 6 servings. I have said numerous times that it is 4-6 servings per day. Yes a 6 yr old is hungrier than a 4 yr old. You think the only thing a 6 yr old wants is bread to fill him up?

 

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 1:27pm

Psst....a lot of people think $113,000 for someone in their early 30s is a lot of money, and don't be so coy about the family money.

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 1:29pm

My dd and I just talked about this yesterday. She is quite infatuated with this boy she is dating, and I cautioned her about how sometimes when you have someone else to worry about you might make different decisions than if you were single. I gave her the example of, what if she got the chance to go on a summer exchange to Europe when she was a senior or something, and felt bad/guilty about going because her bf didnt want her to (or she felt like she would miss him too much etc). This was all conveyed with the idea of keeping teen relationships in perspective and not letting it control your life or be a huge factor in your future decisions.

dj

Dj

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 1:30pm

That's my point - many more 21 year olds fit than 15 year olds into that description. Don't you agree?

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 1:30pm

Great post.

Robin

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