Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Who has influenced your sah/woh
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm |
opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.
We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!


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Mine as well.
PumpkinAngel
What will happen when they have to make these decisions on their own?
PumpkinAngel
Were you such an obedient child????? I was "sneaking around" years and years before having sex- to do other (non-sexual) forbidden things such as taking before-dinner cookies and finding out what was hidden in the forbidden closet (b'day etc. gifts, it was a favorite hiding place). For a lot of teens, myself included, sneaking around for sex was no more of a loss than sneaking a cookie had been a decade earlier, or sneaking into a forbidden R rated movie had been a couple years earlier. DD started sneaking at about age 3 or 4 when she realized that I only stopped her from doing something (like drawing on the wall) when I was aware she was doing it. For some, the sneaking is part of the thrill and goes in the "pro" column rather than the "con" column because it's always fun to pull the wool over mom and dad's eyes.
DD comes from a long line of sneakers. My own mom confided her youthful sneaks when I was in college. So it's not overly likely that I'll have one of those "tell me everything" relationships that other posters either actively have or are building towards. I'll try to give dd as much guidance as possible but with no assumption that it will be a two-way communication street. I don't find this sad (I say that because it's almost inevitable that a poster will now say "that's so sad, all that sneaking") it's just the way I,dd, my mom, and one of dd's uncles are wired. We play it close to the vest and are not too jazzed about sharing a lot.
Dh also had his share of youthful sneaks, though less than me. DD's inherited sneakiness probably comes from my side. But "loss of innocence"? Nah. If "innocence" is defined as being open with your parents about literally everything you do, then dd lost it as soon as she was cognitively able, 3-4. I probably lost it at the same age though I don't remember. Perhaps if I had been faultlessly obedient and open right up until that time, it would have been a loss. But I wasn't and dd already isn't.
I said that you should be ready to deal with becoming pregnant, that does not necessarily mean becoming a parent (abortion, adoption).
Robin
Have you tried one of those wedge slicers?
PumpkinAngel
Smaller, sweeter and easier to peel for the kids.
PumpkinAngel
Actually, I do have one of those and use it, but only after peeling the apple. Hmmm, I've only ever given them whole apples with the peel on. Maybe if I use the wedger w/o peeling first, they will then eat with the skin. I actually don't mind peeling them *that* much as I feel it's kinda icky to be eating something that people have been touching, even though I wash them first.
What stinks is that I would love to just stick an apple in dd's lunch but I can't - if I peel it, it will yellow. So instead, I have to give her peeled and sliced kiwi, grapes (though she has to be in the mood) or clementines. Bananas won't do (they get brown in her lunch). When clementines aren't in season, she almost always gets kiwi. Sometimes, I'll give her cups of no-sugar added applesauce or cups of diced peaches, but the peaches come in sweetened juice so I limit those. Can't wait for summer when I have much better options for fresh fruit!
Thanks for the tip, though, I'll give that a try!
Jennie
Jennie
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