Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:22am

"I don't see anything positive about teen sex, just a lot of negatives."

Great! But surely you can recognize that your personal opinion doesn't = objective fact, right?

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:23am
so are you saying your kids dont have the right to have their own moral/value beliefs? i know i dont believe the same way as my parents about everything, yet to date they have never expressed disappointment in my choices. my daughter is only 15 and she already has views on moral/value related issues that differ from mine, is see it that she is able to learn and form her own opinions and not just follow along with what i believe.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:24am
So the big advantage is that you think kids learn to be physically, sexually, and emotionally intimate by having sex at 15? Even if I agreed with you, there's no reason kids can't do that later. There's nothing you can do at 15 that you can't do when you're older.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:24am
So, even if you and a small minority of 15 year olds had sex with no negative repercussions, why do you believe that you should not have an opinion as to when your own dd begins to have sexual intercourse?

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:26am

"is teen sex always about peer pressure - i dont believe that at all."

Nor do I.

"i would agree that for some it is but i also think that for some it is a much different thing."

Yes.

"i wonder why you think every teen would be doing anyting for the same reason - do you really not give them credit for being able to think and reason on their own?"

Excellent question!

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:28am
Oh, I see. I'm sure an rv is nicer than motel 6. We do more the kind of camping your friends do.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:28am

Your parents have never expressed disappointment with your choices?

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:29am

"what's so special about 15?"

For everyone? Nothing in particular.

For me? It was the age at which *I* was ready to engage in sex.

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:30am

"Are you sorry you didn't begin engaging in sexual intercourse at age 13?"

Of course not. I wasn't ready to engage in sexual intercourse at age 13.

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:33am

"Well call me boring and old fashioned, but I wouldn't be "okay" with my 15 year old - daughter or son - having regular sex at age 15."

And...?

"It may be a distinct possibility, but that doesn't mean that I have to approve."

And...? Is your approval a requirement? If so, why?

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