Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:34am

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Julia

Julia

Proud Mommy of Macey and Reece

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:34am

Of course it's theirs. That doesn't mean it wouldn't be a poor choice if they made it.

Apparently you haven't read much about the development of the human brain. The frontal lobe, which is where the long-range kind of thinking and planning is, isn't fully developed in teens. That's why they tend to be impulsive and very emotional.

The laws in this country recognize that teens are not adults. They're not allowed to drink until 21, they can't vote until they are 18, and in my state they can't drive until they're 16, and only then with certain restrictions. The Supreme Court has held that it's unconstitutional for juveniles to get the death penalty because they are not cognitively like adults. Parents are legally responsible for their children until they are adults.

The "magic" of adulthood is being an adult. What's the magic of 15?

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:39am
i was not talking about everyday choices, which of course they gave their opinions on. and they certainly instilled morals and values in their children, but they did not express disappointment if our values were different than theirs - as you said you would do. my mother does not believe in divorce, that is her moral compass, yet when i got divorced she did not sit around telling me how disappointed she was in me, she gave me care and understanding, despite it being something she did not believe in. i thought this conversation was in regards to morals/values.
Jennie
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:40am

"I'm going to decline to share my personal experience,"

Well, you were certainly willing to share in post 2137. Is there some reason as to why you're willing to share the *frequency* of your sexual experiences but not the *when*?

Btw, here's post 2137 again.

"YOU: I can't imagine a 15 year old who's having sex is limiting him or herself to once a week. When I started having sex, I wanted it every day.

Thanks for sharing LOL!

And your point is...?

BTW, seeing as you feel so comfortable sharing, perhaps you could enlighten us as to:

*When* the "When you started having sex, you wanted it every day" occured?"

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:41am

See my post above. I've exlained to you why teens are not the same as adults. Their brains are not fully-developed.

I and others in this thread have given you lots of reasons why teen sex is a bad idea. You havn't given any reasons why teen sex is a good thing, other than to claim that kids can learn how to become emotionally and physically intimate by having sex. Yet, even if that were true, kids can do that later. There's nothing you can do at 15 that you can't do later.

Sure, this is my opinion, but I have something to back it up.

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:41am

"but I do believe it's much healthier emotionally and physically for the vast majority of people to begin to have sex at an age older than 15.'

And you are in the position to make this decision for the "vast majority of people" how...?

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:42am
i can only speak for myself her, but i can certainly have an opinion - and my opinion is that i hope she is way older than both you or i were. but what i cant do is decide for her.
Jennie
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:43am
I can recognize that my personal opinion is supported by logic and information about the brain development of teenagers, yes. I don't see anything to back up your opinion that teen sex is a positive thing.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:47am

"Do you think the average 15 year old is mature enough to be sexually active?"

I don't think I am in any position whatsoever to make blanket statments wrt to whether the average 15 year *is* or *isn't* mature enough to be sexually active.

It simply isn't my call, nor my decision to make.

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:47am
i think a parents opinion is totally relevant to the discussion of teen sex.
Jennie

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