Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 12:34pm

"But you surely got your liberal views from somewhere."

Actually, for the most part my liberal views were/are self-motivated.

"You didn't create them all by yourself. Who influenced you more, peers or parents?"

In all honesty, neither. For instance, neither my parents nor my peers were Evolutionists or Libertarians, and yet I was/am both.

And while I didn't *create* Evolution/Natural Selection or the Libertarian party, my interest and belief in both was/is more self-motivated than parent or peer motivated.

Similarly, as an adult neither my parents nor my "peers/friends" are SAHP's, nor do they practice/believe in Attachment Parenting (ie co-sleeping (no cribs/cages), exclusive breastfeeding (no artificial or susbstitute feeding via bottles/formula/expressed bm), extended breastfeeding (child-led weaning), baby wearing, little to no use of substitute care (not to be confused with care provided by extended family members), etc. and yet I am/believe in both.

Does this answer your question?

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 12:41pm

"I remember that one of the reasons you're such a die hard atheist,"

Die hard atheist??? Evolutionist, yes. Pantheist, yes. But atheist, no.

BTW, Haven't we already had this conversation several times?

"is that your parents are or were religious fundamentalists (or am I wrong?)."

That would be incorrect. My parents weren't/aren't religious. Perhaps you're thinking of my dh's parents?

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 12:43pm

"And while I didn't *create* Evolution/Natural Selection or the Libertarian party, my interest and belief in both was/is more self-motivated than parent or peer motivated."


So you basically read all about Evolution, the Libertarian Party and Attachment Parenting and thought about things (no discussion with peers or parents, or very little) and decided that was the way to go?


Did the boyfriend you had at age 15 influence any of these beliefs?

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 12:45pm

<<"Hmm, So at what age do you think sex becomes age appropriate?>>

"I already answered this - I think 21 is much better than 15."

And you are in the position to make this decision for everyone in all situations across the board how...?

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 12:52pm

Somewhat OT, but they are now testing a pill for Type I, rather than injections. My best friend's 5yo had Type I, (diagnosed when she was 3) and they are very excited about it.

http://www.diabetesincontrol.com/modules.php?name=News&file=article&sid=2591

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Edited 2/23/2006 1:03 pm ET by charlesmama1
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 12:56pm

Wow! I have not read about this yet. I do get some nursing journals but it is hard to read them all. Wouldn't that be wonderful? I remember in my peds clinic having to teach a 5 y.o. and his parents how and where to inject the needle. He just cried and cried. It broke my heart but I knew he needed it.

Thanks for the info.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 12:58pm

"The "magic" age at which sex becomes appropriate is when you are capable of handling the financial and emotional aspects of becoming pregnant. No birth control is 100% accept not having sex."

Ok, so at what age is one "capable of handling the financial and emotional aspects of becoming pregnant?

You do realize that you just described a good number of adults in our society, including married adults, middle aged adults, single adults, etc. right?

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:06pm
It's not about being a rite of passage; it's just about how old you have to be legally.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:07pm
i think that's a tough call....b/c pills for a young dd is like providing a condom for a young ds..i don't know that getting in my car, making the trip to the ob/gyn for my dd is my allowance to provide if her request is for something i don't agree with..kwim?

 

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:07pm

"I'm sorry I didn't make the connection clear. You lose innocence and an open relationship with your parents if you are sneaking around looking for an opportunity to have sexual relations."

Losing an open relationship with your parents??? Sneaking around???

So what about open relationships with parents that *don't* include sneaking around?

Or is this sort of open relationship between parents and teens entirely unfathomable to you?

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