Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:08pm
I just edited my post to include a link. I can search EBSCO later and try to find one that isn't sponsored by the drug company... LOL. My heart goes out to those kids too. You should see my friend's little girl... I'm so proud of her. Takes her injections without a complaint, with a smile on her face. It took about 6 months or so, but they get used to it.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:11pm
are you saying that your parents knew you were a sexually active 15 year old hk?

 

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:12pm

"Considering that teens are adults for 2 years (18 and 19), I think it's a pretty typical rite of passage."

I agree.

"I suspect that people are using "teen" when they actually mean "highschool student"."

Yes, I suspect the same.

"And it is more than a rite of passage. It is a hormonal imperative."

Indeed it is.

"When you try to talk a highschool student (notice I didn't say teen) out of sex, you are arguing against more than mere peer pressure. You are arguing against biology itself."

Yes, yes, and yes.

"Pretending that there isn't an incredibly strong biological drive involved is just whisteling in the dark."

I couldn't agree more.

"You have to convince them NOT to listen to what their bodies are telling them to do, so you'd better have some pretty compelling reasons to share with them."

Yep. Fairly tall order IMHO.

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:14pm

"Just curious...why do you follow almost every statement with LOL:)?"

Because I like to follow many of my statement with LOL, :), !, or !!!.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:14pm
But susannah, what about the emotional consequences of bringing a baby to term and then having to choose not to parent? The consequences of that are to all concerned, which can come to quite a sizable number.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:14pm
Do you mean, will I take her to the doctor to get birth control? I don't know yet--probably. If she's having sex, of course I want her to use birth control. I'll certainly tell her I don't agree with her decision and why. One concern I have with teenagers going on the pill is that they may focus only on birth control and not think about STDs. They really need to be using condoms plus an additional method of birth control.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:22pm
Thank you for the link!
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:27pm

"are you saying that your parents knew you were a sexually active 15 year old hk?"

Yes, I'm saying that my parents knew I was sexually active at 15 years old.

I discussed the issue with my mom prior to my becomming sexually active and she took me the doctor to get birth control. Just as my 17 yo sister did (at 16) and my 26 yo sister did (at 17).

Is this scenerio really so impossible to imagine?

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:33pm
This troubles me, too. I'm not sure how much I would facilitate this. I think if you're old enough to have sex, you're old enough to schedule your own appointment, figure out how to get there, and pay for it yourself. I might just talk to her about birth control and ask her how she's planning to arrange for it. I might also ask her to talk to somebody else she trusts, such as my sister, before she makes the decision.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:34pm
sort of......my life directions were so not attached to having sex at that age. that's all.

 

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