Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:55pm
I would do whatever I need to do, to protect them, even if it goes against my teachings/values, because my childrens health comes before anything else, period.
EXACTLY!!!!
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:01pm
i think when it comes to kids and sex where there is a will there is a way. i know the first time i had sex it was on a picnic out in the woods. and no, there is no way i would allow my teen to have sex in my house, i would like to think she knows better. i am 43 and have never had sex in my mothers house.
Jennie
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:03pm
i dont think my daughters life dircetions are attached to having sex either but i dont know that her life directions are enough to stop her from having sex at some point.
Jennie
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:04pm

You did, you did and I would do something very similar, since I have boys.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:09pm
There is the uncomfortable middle ground of resigning yourself to it without condoning it. Which would be discussing the birth control etc. without actually facilitating it. You don't have to be an adult to buy OTC birth control. The teen/ highschool student can walk into a drugstore (where I live,a grocery store too) and buy condoms. I think part of the responsibilities of sex are getting the birth control and finding a place WITHOUT mommy's help. If you need mommy's help, you aren't old enough. And I do plan to tell this to dd.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:09pm

egd3blessed seems to think the best way to handle teh facts of sex is to leave them to the church and school and that for me to give my daughter that information was just ridiculous, since they would get it at those places.

i have told my daughter that she would be responsible for the cost of birth control, but i dont believe she can make the appointment without my consent, assuming she is a minor when that time comes. and i just cant let her put her future at risk that way because of a belief i have.
Jennie

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:11pm
I agree that when there is a will there is a way.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:12pm
I do agree with you on that point. This is one of those things where I think one measure of readiness is taking the responsibility for one's own birth control. As I said in another post, if you need Mommy's help, you aren't ready.
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Registered: 09-08-2003
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:15pm
True true, which is probably where I will end up on the spectrum.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:17pm
i agree about the accepting vs condoning. but i just cant let my daughter jeopardize her future by not helping her get the pill if she decides to become sexually active, i do expect her to fund this herself. i see making sure she has access to birth control pills as a health issue more so than condoning sex.
Jennie

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