Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Who has influenced your sah/woh
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm |
opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.
We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!


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"Oh, I get it now. You are not understanding that my opinion does not = making choices or decisions for other people.
Lots of people, In My Opinion, make very dumb decisions. That doesn't empower me in any way to dictate to them what their decisions should be."
Very glad to hear that :)
BTW, what about the possibility that your opinion doesn't = objective fact?
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"But we're not debating your personal decision"
Actually, we are, in that some people seem to think they have a say in what is or isn't considered age appropriate, moral, promiscuous, responsible, mature, safe, emotionally and physically advantageous, etc. etc. etc. wrt *ME* personally, including you pnj.
"or any other individual 15 year old's decision."
Again, yes some people are.
"Nor are we saying every single teenager is not mature enough to have sex at age 15."
And yet once again, yes some people are.
"We're talking in general - somewhere between one individual and every single individual - okay?"
I disagree. When one is talking about me personally, that's not talking in general.
Likewise, when one is talking about always, never, everyone, and all, that's not in general either.
"My parents most decidedly expressed disappointment (fury, actually) with a choice of mine. I'm glad that trying not to disappoint them was not a factor in my decision. They very strongly value the tribalism of Judaism and attempted as hard as they could to pass along the value of marrying somebody Jewish. As my Dad put it. "We're shrinking in number and you're making it worse!". I am very anti-tribalism. This value I definately did NOT get from them. It has relevence to this discussion insofar as choice of a spouse is, in part, a sexual choice. And one that I made in direct opposition to their values because I value something different.
So children developing their own values is not necessarily a bad thing (for the children it's not, but my Dad is still ticked)."
Great post!
"what do you mean by support? if your 16 year old comes to you and says you know mom i really love whomever and we have been dating for well over a year now and we have decided to become sexually active, can you take me to get birth control - do you support her?"
IMO, yes, you support her :)
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