Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:34pm
No, I'm saying that having sex at 15 is a poor choice. You can be your kid's buddy all you want. I'm not going to agree with mine when they make a poor choice.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:34pm
while i definately want my daughter to use condoms i am not willing to bet her future on some boyfriend putting it on correctly, so i will take her to get birth control pills, so she has double the protection. and i dont beleive if she is a minor she can recieve them without my consent - although i could be wrong about that.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:35pm
15-year-olds are not.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:37pm

That's a very good point.


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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:37pm
The point is that the law recognizes that teens are *not* adults. Their parents are legally responsible for them until they are 18, like it or not. I'm told above that kids can't even go on the pill without parental consent.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:44pm

It's pretty hard to regulate sex between 15-yr-olds. However, there are statutory rape laws to protect kids from having sex with adults 18 and older.

Our laws recognize that kids are not responsible for themselves yet. Adult privileges such as drinking, driving, and apparently obtaining birth control are all regulated. Juveniles receive special treatment because of their age. Parents are legally responsible for their kids until they are 18.

Again, the teenage brain is not fully-developed. That is why kids need special protection.

And we've been talking about 15-yr-olds. If you want to argue that 18-yr-olds are old enough to have sex, I'd say--some are, some aren't. I'd rather my kids waited until college.

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:46pm

"The point is that the law recognizes that teens are *not* adults."

No it doesn't. It recognizes that 13-17yo teens are not adults. As you acknowledge in your next sentence, 18 and 19yo's are adults. There is a 2 year time frame during somebody is both a teen and an adult. I realize that it's cumbersome to type "highschool student" instead of "teen" all the time, but perhaps using "teen" as being equivalent with both "highschool student" and "not yet adult" has made it easy to forget that they aren't synonymous. As some highschool seniors have discovered to their sorrow when they got charged as the adults they were for doing things which would have been more lightly penalized if they'd still been <18.

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:47pm
What is the advantage of having sex at 15 vs waiting? What is it that you get out of having sex at 15 that you can't get at 18 or 20?
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:49pm
I agree with this. I do worry a little that condoms are not safe enough for birth control, though.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:53pm
I agree. I don't see any reason to throw up my hands and assume that my kids can't wait. I waited.

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