Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:59pm
I got pregnant for DD2 in my mothers house.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 5:16pm
i agree with you. and i hope and pray with all my heart that my kids wait - but i just want them to be prepared - and i dont believe that giving them information is giving them my permission to go have sex - unfortunately alot of people think if they just dont talk about sex to kids then they wont do it.
Jennie
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 5:23pm
nah, your not a bad mother. heck my two year old is learning his colors from his fuit snacks.
Jennie
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 5:30pm
I don't think giving them information is giving them permission either, but I think that taking them to get birth control is pretty close to permission.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 5:35pm
i tell my kids all the time, i am your parent not your friend. there are things that i have a zero tolerance on, drinking and driving, be in the car with someone who has been drinking and driving and using drugs for instance - my zero tolerance is because i believe those things carry too great a risk. my stance on drinking is a little different - i do not want my kids to drink, but i have told her, if you are ever anywhere and you have had a drink or the person you are with has call me to come get you, i will come to whereever you are and there will be no questions asked and no punishment delivered. we will certainly talk about it the next day - but my concern is to keep her safe. and that is probably why i am dealing with sex in the way that i am, my main goal is to keep her safe.
Jennie
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 5:36pm

"Do you give in to all your biological imperatives? Please."

IS there some reason why *all* biological imperatives should be fought?

Again, you might want to limit the use of words such as *always* and *all*.

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 5:39pm
i would never say, okay dear you are now 15 lets put you on birth control in case you want to have sex. but if she comes to me and says she and her boyfriend are thinking about becoming sexually active and can i help her get birth control i just cant in good conscience tell her no. and i dont believe that me telling her no is going to prevent her from having sex at that point.
Jennie
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 5:40pm

"Did your parents say, "Ok, hk, whatever you want," or was there any discussion about it?"

From post 2374:

"I discussed the issue with my mom prior to my becomming sexually active and she took me the doctor to get birth control. Just as my 17 yo sister did (at 16) and my 26 yo sister did (at 17)."

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 5:52pm
my mother has a very good friend whose son died of aids and from all accounts it was pretty horrible for everyone.
Jennie
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 6:24pm

ITA. I have seen people suffering from end-stage AIDS and it is so horrible. I had a clinic instructor who let us pick a floor our last semester to work on. I picked hospice because I have never seen that kind of care. It is weird b/c you are trained to save people and on this type of floor they do not want to be saved. They want to die in peace and as pain free as possible. I think that type of nursing is actually the hardest. Antway, they had a few AIDS patients who were end-stage and their faces will always stick with me. I think it is probably one of the most devastating diseases I have ever seen.

Personally, I am not going to rely on my dd's boyfriend to put on a condom right. I want her to know the effective way to use a condom. I want them to know how to prevent AIDS and other STD's. I want my dd's to have as much knowledge as possible to make the right decisions. That is also why I want them to wait.

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