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Who has influenced your sah/woh
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm |
opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.
We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!


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"I don't think it's fair for anyone to impose *their* values on anyone else, including their kids and teens.>>
"No, that's what I'm saying. My values are my religious denomination's value, when it comes to sex. My values are not my values alone."
And...? Nice try. However, the bottom line here is that they are still *YOUR* values.
Thus, clearly *YOU* (as well as your religious denomination I might add) are *BOTH* absolutely of the opinion that's it's not only fair but appropriate, acceptable, reasonable, etc. to impose *YOUR* values on *ALL* others as if they are the *ONE and only ONE RIGHT, OBJECTIVE, CORRECT, MORALLY SUPERIOR WAY* for *EVERYONE* in *EVERY* situation *ACROSS THE BOARD*.
<<"But imposing *one and only one right, objective, correct, morally superior way*, no.>>
"Yes, I believe biblical teachings as the "one and only one right, objective, correct, morally superior way."
Yes. Exactly. In fact, you just proved the very point I was trying to make.
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Just a suggestion :)>>
"I'd be happy to if you agree to limit your use of LOL, :), ! etc. at the end of your posts..........."
Already done, thanks though.
"Having sex at 15 is a bad choice."
Do you see the difference between the following statements:
Having sex at 15 is a bad choice. VS. IMHO, having sex at 15 is a bad choice.
Just curious?
"you know hk, i think you hit the nail on the head with this statement.."
>>seem to forget that their personal *opinions* don't necessarily = objective fact.<<
Actually, perhaps I should rephrase my statement as I don't think you understood it.
People seem to forget that their personal *opinions* don't necessarily = objective truth.
Does the substitution of "truth" for "fact" make more sense?
"Only because in your last board incarnation you told us that your mother didn't raise you."
That is correct. My mother didn't raise me. I lived with my dad. I can see how that might be confusing.
ITA!
I really want my children to wait until marriage, if not at least until they are adults in committed relationships. I would hate for someone to think, because I'm more concerned about my childrens health, that I am giving them *the green light*. I have already started talking to my 10 year old DD about sex. She knows that it is important to wait until marriage. Hopefully, she will continue to talk to me throughout her teen years.
I believe we all have different experiences, to bring into parenting our children. If I would of never of known Christina, I would be just like many others here, who say they will be open about talking to their kids, but won't go as far as getting birth control. However, I was truly devestated as a teen, to watch a child die of AIDS. Therefore, I think I'm coming from an experience that not many women here have had. So to me, my childrens health comes before anything else. In know way will I condone teen sex, but I would hate myself if I knew my teen was having sex, and I didn't make sure they had condoms, and one of my own children contracted AIDS.
It's no easy decision for me or my DH, but again, I saw for several months day in and day out, how devestating AIDS is, and I wouldn't want that for anyone. I love reading from other post here, on how to teach your teen sexual responsibilty, but be very careful as to not condone pre-marital sex. What a balancing act.
Julia
Julia
Proud Mommy of Macey and Reece
"Let me ask you a question - who is in the best position to *objectively* evaluate whether a person is mature enough to begin sexual relations - the teenager whose hormones are engaged, or her parents?"
I think that the decision should be subjectively evaluated by *BOTH* the teenager (whose hormones are engaged) as well as the parents (whose hormones are also presumably engaged).
Why do you see it as a black or white, all or nothing, either/or, one size fits all, objectively verifiable situation?
"I don't think any of my opinions are objective fact."
Not *ANY*? There you go again.
Btw, if this is the case, would you please mind explaining the following statement?
From post 2401:
"Yes, I believe biblical teachings as the "one and only one right, objective, correct, morally superior way."
Jennie
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