Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 10:29am

.....and you thought I was frustrating in a debate.


PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 10:30am
If your mom was deluded for holding a particular value (marrying within one's own race, in this case), then perhaps it's just as well that children sometimes diverge from their parents in values. It's not like we have a guarenteed lock on "right" values that our own parents somehow missed out on and perhaps some of the values we hold will turn out to be just as far off the mark years from now.
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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 10:35am
HIPAA, Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 10:41am
And a fine law it is! I've had parents call the lab and request (then demand) the STD test results on their teens. Not a peep out of me.
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 10:41am
i think this is how i look at that - certainly, i dont want my daughter to be a murderer, i dont want her to be a theif, i dont want her to be a cheat - and were she to become those things, yes, i would be very disappointed and would tell her so. however, i really see those things as not in the likely realm of possibilities, of course i could be wrong. i am raising my kids in the church, if at some point the turn away from the church or choose a different church i just dont see myself being disappointed as that is a choice she will have to make for herself and her family sometime down the road. i have given her a foundation she has to take it forward or not. and you know, maybe i will be wrong about this as well, but today these are my feelings.
Jennie
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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 10:46am
So right. We can try to teach them, but if they won't go along that's just too bad. We did have to have sort of an "intervention" with Mom. Kinda like, "Think what you want, but be nice and fake it or you won't be seeing much of your grandkids". Sounds harsh, but what are you gonna do with someone like that?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 10:56am

Great post.


PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 11:03am

No. Because when I am the one posting it, it is always my opinion, unless I'm specifically referencing someone else's opinion.

Carrie

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 11:08am
i think maybe the term "core values" is the difference. certainly we agree that one should not lie, cheat, steal or murder but really, our views on most issues are pretty different.
Jennie
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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 11:15am
my two year old is like that - if he cant do it himself he would just as soon do without - totally frustrating somedays. my 15 year old is the opposite - there was a time i wasnt sure she would ever even be able to go to college on her own because she wanted my help with everything. my 7 year old fortunately falls somewhere in the middle. i am always amazed at just how different they all are - what works with/for one rarely works for the others. i guess that is what keeps parents on their toes. :)
Jennie

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