Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 1:31pm

"I agree with teaching values to our children and do so each and every day "

Yes, I do so as well.

- what i do not understand is why one would be disappointed if their children grew into values that were different than our own."

I have a difficult time understanding this too.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 1:36pm
and i feel as a parent that i have to, my children need to know they can depend on me for that.
Jennie
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 1:39pm

"If your mom was deluded for holding a particular value (marrying within one's own race, in this case), then perhaps it's just as well that children sometimes diverge from their parents in values."

Yes. Clearly, some values held by parents are not necessarily a positive thing simply based on the fact that they are parents.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 1:40pm

"It's not like we have a guarenteed lock on "right" values"

Hear. Hear.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 1:41pm

"perhaps some of the values we hold will turn out to be just as far off the mark years from now."

Yes. Too true.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 1:49pm

"fortunately we are all allowed to parent in the way we feel best meets the needs of our own children. i dont know if my way is right, i dont know if your way is right, heck i dont know for sure that 3blessed way isnt right, all i know is i have to do what i feel will give my kids the best chance of making it to adulthood healthy and happy."

Nice post.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:02pm

"What is your reason then? And please don't tell me you've already answered the question. Just tell me what the reason is, if you indeed have a reason."

If you didn't hear it the first four times, you're not going to hear it on the 5th.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:05pm
Just as I thought--no reason.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:06pm

"What is your reason then?"

Certainly not any of the reasons you listed below in post 1551.

More sex.

More sex partners.

Goals wrt having a lot of sex and lots of sex partners.

Viewing sex casually.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:09pm

"No, you haven't answered it"

Yes, in fact, I have.

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