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Who has influenced your sah/woh
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm |
opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.
We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!


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But, I thought you said dh wouldn't make an ideal sahp?
PumpkinAngel
"Actually, the solution lies in getting men to SAH. When men SAH in equal or greater numbers than women, THEN it will be considered to have value."
Are you serious! "When men SAH in equal or greater numbers than women, THEN it will be considered to have value." Sorry, but your views are extrememly degrading to women.
How dare you suugest that it is MEN who soley dictate what is and isn't valuable. I must say, quite disturbing. Shame on you!
"As long as things are classified as women's work/men's work there will be differences in the value."
So basically what you are saying here is that you think women's work is more or less degrading and of less value than men's work. Again, quite disturbing!
"But how do you get men to want to do what is traditionally thought of as women's work?"
Well, you can start by not marrying a bigoted husband who thinks of women in such a blatantly degrading fashion."
"One way is to get men to see the value in their wives paid employment. If men want their wives working, then men will work to change corporations to make that happen. If they want the value of her paycheck, they will be willing do to more of the child care in order to get it. The trick is to make them want what we want. Equality."
And another way is to get both men AND women to see the value in unpaid work such as SAH. FOr the life of me, I simply don't understand why you prefer to beat around the bush and resort to all sorts of tricky including outright degradation in order to promote equality. Why not just try practicing what you preach? Equality is not something I wish and hope for sometime in the future. It's something I've always expected and thus had. There is no bartering for or compromising my sense of equality. Sorry, but in my book, it just isn't negotiable. Equality simply is.
"What we need is leverage. Something men want that they're willing to trade child care and house cleaning services for. I think the closest thing to that something is our wages."
Leverage??? For equality??? I truely cannot comprehend your POV. Do you, as well as your dh honestly hold such archaic views wrt to equality? I don't even know what to say.
"Of course it's possible to think one thing is ideal without thinking the alternatives are bad. But I still want people to explain when they claim one thing is superior to another in any sense beyond their own personal situation."
I think you hit the nail on the head :) Such a claim is clearly inapproriate.
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