Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Who has influenced your sah/woh
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm |
opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.
We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!


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Your uncertainty over just how much individual attention is necessary proves my point. As does your apparent unfamiliarity with just how much individual attention can be provided in othercare.
Also, this argument about quitting really doesn't stand up. Divorce rates approach 50%. Othercare happens in a broad range of settings. What's the evidence that a child in 40 hours of othercare is more likely to experience a turnover of caregivers than a child in full parental care? Even if one assumes, as they should not, that that's a big deal?
Are you sure it is about "family setup" and what your kids need?
You've posted a lot about how your dh isn't cut out to be a SAHP and how much trouble you have getting him involved him in your children's lives that I would suspect that the reason you wouldn't want a five day off, two day on arrangement would be because it would be too tough on you (and your relationship with your dh).
Would you feel the same way if your dh was the kind of father who took the kids on weekend trips on his own, or if your dh was the kind of father perfectly content to occupy the kids (and did a good job at it; met the same standards you have for your nanny) for the whole weekend while you were away?
I don't think the pay daycare providers earn is a true reflection of their value. Dcps will always earn less than a wohp's salary, otherwise it wouldn't be fiscally possible to work and pay a dcp.
And there are lots of jobs (say, the drug trade, madam of an escort service) which require few skills or education, but are extremely well-paid. Yet, society doesn't value them at all.
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"But PNJ doesnt seem to see value in parental love in the care one provides for an infant or toddler."
In some respects, my nanny provides a higher level of caregiving than does my DH.
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"I believe SAHM and WOHM are equal in the bigger picture."
Ok, so riddle me this:
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