Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Who has influenced your sah/woh
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm |
opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.
We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!


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****But you're not getting the distinction. I picked my childcare provider (and then later my nanny) not just because I "preferred" them, but because I could articulate reasons why they were the best providers for my children.***
Yes I am. You picked the providers you picked because they were better than the others. Using your words they were the best.
You are right to a degree. That is my point. Sometimes what may be better isn't exactly what one prefers. Doesn't change the fact that things are either better or worse. It is an individual choice.
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"Let's see, um, fathers are less involved than mothers?"
In every situation across the board??? I think not. Perhaps this is the case in your family but it isn't the case in mine. My dh is just as involved as I am.
BTW, I lived with and was raised by my father with very little involvement from my mother. My dh also lived with and was raised by his father (yet he did have a bit more involvement from his mother than I did in my situation).
In other words, your blanket statement that "fathers are less involved than mothers," is not nearly as accurate as you seem to think it is.
"Could it be that society tells them that their job when they become parents it so earn a paycheck while their wifes job is to care for the kids?"
So, fathers are nothing more than robotic drones who are utterly dependent on society to tell them what their job is? Is that correct? Perhaps they need to step up, be the men that they are, and start thinking for themselves then.
"His work is center stage because the entire family needs his income."
Another blanket statement??? Sorry, but when it comes to my dh, family is center stage, not work.
Sorry, I shouldn't have called you goofy. But your statement there is a new one for me. I'll try to explain it better.
First of all, in this thread, when we're talking about "better", we don't mean just better in our own opinions. We mean better for most people. And that is something that needs proof.
For example, research tells us that breast milk is better for kids. Now, there may be a few kids for whom a different food may be preferable for some reason. But for most kids, modern science agrees that breast is best. Same goes for vaccinations; research tells us that they're a good idea. There may be individual cases where it's not a good idea, but, by and large, when we want what's "best" for our kids, most of us agree that vaccinations are the way to go.
But when it comes to what kind of care children receive, be it parental care or one of the many forms of othercare, there is no universally acknowledged "best" that I'm aware of.
People give different weight to different factors.
Do you deny that there is such a thing as objectively better?
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