Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 5:10pm

Well my son is better at eating. He is also better at riding a bike.

My daughter is better at playing alone.
She is also better at cleaning her room.

The list goes on.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 5:11pm
But overall, is one better than the other? or different?
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 5:11pm

"Some people major in art or anthropology or comparative english literature. Some people get "educated" because they love the topic- it's not all about being financially secure."

I was just about to post something along the same lines :)

Although I plan to get my Masters (most likely in Evolutionary Psychology) in the next
few years, my motivation in earning a graduate degree is based on the love of the topic. And seeing as I do not plan to re-enter the workforce, it would hardly be a financial move, but rather an educational one.

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"Personality differences, world view differences, different personal experiences."

Yes. I agree :)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 5:12pm

Your POV of constant ranking is not something that everyone does. In this thread I've come to understand that YOU always do it. So you will always be able to rank things.

"But that doesn't change the fact that things are always better or worse." It isn't a fact. Just because you personally rank everything you encounter does NOT mean that they actually are better or worse. It's just your personal POV. Not everyone does this. Which means it isn't actually a fact.

"I would bet if you were honest with yourself, you would admit that you rank things all the time." I do. But not everything. There you go with the dichotomies again. It is not that I always rank or never rank. It's that sometimes I do and sometimes I just appreciate the differences between things without ranking them.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 5:13pm

That's what's being argued.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 02-14-2006 - 5:15pm

Then you might want to go back and re-read some of this thread, because that is what was claimed.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 5:15pm
No that isn't what we were arguing in this subthread. Maybe that is what the original argument was, I don't know. This subthread was about better and worse. You don't have to rank every single thing in life as you go. Still doesn't change the fact that things are better or worse. Across the board.

 

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 5:16pm

"Really it is up to the individual."

Indeed it is :)

"For our family, me SAH is much better."

The same is true for my family :)

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 5:16pm

Nope, not me.


I would never claim to be a better parent than my dh.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 5:16pm
Again, this is a subthread. If you got slammed for questioning a blanket statement than that poster is wrong. I agree that nothing is ideal for everyone.

 

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