Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 9:57pm

"I am guessing that these women didn't have good attorney's."

You can't get blood from a stone. If you are just getting by on his salary alone, how do you expect to live on a portion of his salalry or do you think she's going to get it all? I hate the attitude of entitlement that some mothers have.

"Do you really think the majority of WOHM are in the same boat as you"

Nope but I do think that working moms are more likely to be better off than stay at home moms in such a situation.

"Not for me. I can walk back into my job tomorrow and make just as much as I did before. I could also cut my hours in half and still make a very good living. So your gloom and doom isn't always the case"

Show me one post where I said it was always the case. I didn't. It is, unfortunately, often the case and something to be considered. If you can walk right back into your old job and make good money, you are very lucky that is not the norm. I turn your question back on you. Do you think that the majority of stay at home moms are in the same boat as you?

"I don't think it is either. I also don't think being a WOHM is the only way."

I never said it was the only way.

What are child friendly hours? Do different hours have different value with regard to child friendliness?

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 10:04pm

***I hate the attitude of entitlement that some mothers have.***

Hate it all you want. It is the law.

***Nope but I do think that working moms are more likely to be better off than stay at home moms in such a situation.***

I disagree.

***Do you think that the majority of stay at home moms are in the same boat as you?***

No. I was just pointing out that the gloom and doom you portray isn't always the case.

***What are child friendly hours? Do different hours have different value with regard to child friendliness?***

Ones where I can actually see my children. Before I had children about 9 months out of the year I worked about 14 hour days.


 

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 10:05pm

"I agree. However I teach both my children this. Not just my daughter."

Our daughters are the ones who really need the message because they are the ones short changing themselves and daughters tend to take their cues from their mothers while sons theirs from their fathers.

"Be prepared for what?"

Life and it's changes. Your future. Your children's futures. Why do we maintain 6 months expenses in the bank? Why do we carry medical insurance? To be prepared just in case because just in case can happen in a blink. Being prepared for only one lifestyle leaves you struggling if life throws you a curve ball.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 10:13pm

***Our daughters are the ones who really need the message because they are the ones short changing themselves and daughters tend to take their cues from their mothers while sons theirs from their fathers.***

I couldn't disagree with you more here. My son gets just as many cues from me as he does his father. How exactly is it that you think your daughters might short change themselves? Funny that I turned out to be very successful in a man dominated industry. I didn't get that from my mother.

***Life and it's changes. Your future. Your children's futures. Why do we maintain 6 months expenses in the bank? Why do we carry medical insurance? To be prepared just in case because just in case can happen in a blink. Being prepared for only one lifestyle leaves you struggling if life throws you a curve ball.***

Thanks for clearing that up. Again, these are things I will teach BOTH my son and my daughter.

 

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 10:15pm
I think you hit the nail on the head.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 10:46pm

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No, actually

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 10:55pm

You don't?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 11:00pm

Yes it is a debate board, did you not know that?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 11:07pm

I have, the question is have you?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 11:15pm

<<There is no across the board. You can't compare two individuals on different levels. You are asking me to compare apples to oranges. >>


That's not what you have been saying here over and over.

PumpkinAngel

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