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Who has influenced your sah/woh
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm |
opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.
We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!


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Actually post 114 isn't hers.
PumpkinAngel
Actually it is your opinion, nothing more.
PumpkinAngel
Well knock me over with a feather, I never saw that coming.
PumpkinAngel
Seems very complicated to be also looking at things that are different and deciding which one is better or worse.
PumpkinAngel
Must have not read post #632?
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What law?
PumpkinAngel
what are the differences? when my kids have friends over to play the care i give them is not different than the care i give my own children - my feelings may be different, but that doesnt impact the level of care i am giving the children."
Sure. And I wouldnt expect the level of care to be different with my nanny either. But don't you think kids know the difference between a parents love and a care givers care?
Personally I think the difference lies in the fact that we are their parents; we love them unconditionally; they care about that relationship deeply. You don't hear about too many kids longing for the love of their nanny later in life....
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In some respects, my nanny provides a higher level of caregiving than does my DH. Frankly, I don't see that parental love from my DH to my children is qualitatively any better than the love they get from her."
All I have to say to that is...to bad for him, and to bad for them.
" Different? Sure. Just like my relationship with my children is different than their relationship with their dad, nanny or teachers. I just don't see any magic in DH's love for the boys that makes it so superior to the love their nanny has for them."
Again, PNJ I'm at a loss here. I'm glad this is your life, not mine. Honestly.
Can you point out any concrete ways in which your DH's parental love manifests itself that are related to the fact he's their father, instead of to his personality?"
Nope. Not going to bother. We are an ocean away from eachother on this and I don't have the time or inclination to go into it anymore.
Jennie
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