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Who has influenced your sah/woh
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm |
opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.
We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!


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So it was a concern even to you. Unless you sought out or were content to hire an unlicensed dcp who took in more babies/children than the law allowed.
Are you saying you were not discriminating in the least when selecting dc? The dc that added no more than 3 minutes to your commute was the one for you?
Me, too. Especially with boy and girl twins we had equal amount of same-age toys of boys "genders" right from the start. And while my girl *does* play superhero dressup, and legos, and monster make-believe on occasions and the boys have been known to play with barbies and take care of dolls - they could still not be more "boys" an "girl" if we had tried, I think. DD is a pink, frilly, Barbie-girl and both DS's make guns out of everything and think bodily noises are hysterical. Talk about eating crow, lol.
My kids are very different on the energy-scale, it is interesting. My older two take after me and are happiest when they are going, doing, playing, etc. Even when they were very small (1 or 2), they would run for their shoes in the morning and say "Bye-bye!". Ready to go. They have no problem with long days of structured activities - and get cranky with too much unstructured time (or, more likely, get into trouble). Younger DS is completely different. He has DH's personality. Mr. Homebody. Leave me alone. Of all 3, he is the one child that would probably have prefered to be home with a parent and the one that we have made the most concerted effort to keep the length of his days in othercare short.
That's the fun thing about having lots of kids - eventually you see the nature side of the argument in all its different configurations. I know our nurturing affects them, but I can't help but be amazed by the differences inherent in our different children from day 1.
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And if your kids just "thriving" is good enough for you than great. And once again you are insulting most sahp's. You keep stating "ignoring" finances. How about if I stated the reverse to you? Stop worrying about moeny and stop ignoring your children? How would that feel. You are making sahp seem so irresponsible and it is insulting.
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Since you are so big on studies, most sahp's are middle to upper class.
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No, the only thing you are doing for me is solidifying the fact that sah was the best for my children. You do not sound abrasive. You sound very bitter towards men and that is sad.
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A phase? So, when your children turn 18 they cease to exist?
<< We really do need to look at the whole picture in deciding what to do. There are lots of times in our lives when we want something now but it's really not in our best interest. That we want something doesn't equate with it being good or good for us. I've seen that too many times with moms staying home. >>
I really doubt you know more than half of all sahm's. So, your opinion is not valid. PLease (I keep asking) show me the stats on sahp's being irresponsible, living in poverty, etc.
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Hmmmm....and most of the sahm's I know are very upperclass. No debt. The only debt we have is my student loans. Our mortgage has a very low interest rate. No other debt. Cars are fairly new and paid for. I know wohm's who are never around for their kids. So what? Does that mean I can come on here and make blanket statements about wohm's? No. It is ridiculous to do so. really, you sound more like you are trying to justify your life than making a point.
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Statistics, studies,etc??????
<< I know 50% of marriages end in divorce but it's amazing how many of those divorces happen after kids. Over and over I see mom trying to restart a career now as a single mom with no seniority or vacation time to speak of and lower wages than she would have had if she'd never quit to stay home. And I see what it's done to the children. Not that a divorce wouldn't be bad for mine but finances wouldn't be something I'd have to worry about and I've been where I am long enough that I could get away with taking a lot of time off to help my kids through it. How different it is for a former stay at home mom who now must spend less time with her kids because she needs to work and can't help them through that time. Because I never left the work force, if I did end up divorced (unlikely as that may be), I'd be in position to give my kids more support not less. >>
I think you watch way too much TV. You keep stereotyping people.
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Which most parents do. Really, you are not the epitome of good parenting.
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Wow, can you get more insulting. So now most sahm's sah b/c they are selfish??? Well, maybe wohm's do so b/c they are greedy???
And speaking of self-importance.....ha!
***No, actually the soil is just different and the difference in the soil comes through in the grapes. Which is why great wine is grown all over the world. Unless of course you can say that there is only one kind of soil that grows the best grapes? Care to share with me the perfect soil and location of that soil for growing grapes?***
Can't say that I can. But I would bet you in every region there is a better soil and a worse soil.
***There is not a better way to pick grapes. Are you telling me you can tell how the grape was picked by drinking the wine?***
You said that. You said the way they are picked. I bet it is a way but at a BETTER time.
Sigh...This is really getting boring. To be quite honest I don't really care about wine. IMHO you still haven't proved a thing. I am sure to you that I haven't either. So basically it is a wash.
And sah automatically means you are losing yourself?
Really if sahm started stereotyping the way wohm's are on this board they would get slammed.
Personally, my children will see the same things I saw as a child. A mother who saw the importance of being at home in the beginning and returning to her career later. My mother did it very successfully. She sah for 11 years and returnd to the workforce with no problems. She is retiring soon very comfortably. I always admired my mother.
It is a shame that any woman thinks they are only of value to their daughters if they work.
Oh the lovely semantics.
No I am not ranking my children. You asked me a question and I answered. Isn't one of your children better at one thing? If not I would say that you are the exception. This is really getting old. If you think I sit around and rank my children then you are sadly mistaken. You asked me about my children and I answered you. That is a far cry from me sitting around ranking my children.
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