Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 8:51am

"Can you point out any concrete ways in which your DH's parental love manifests itself that are related to the fact he's their father, instead of to his personality?"


Nope. Not going to bother. We are an ocean away from eachother on this and I don't have the time or inclination to go into it anymore."


LOL!

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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 8:55am

I'll give you some examples of situations in which I do not believe SAH is a foolish choice:


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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 8:58am
My immediate reaction? "When you can well afford it." But then I asked my dh that same question. He said to me, "I don't know, I never thought about it". Probably he needs an attitude adjustment, but I'm not holding my breath.
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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 9:00am
I agree.

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 9:12am
Exactly! I cannot spend my entire life worrying about the what ifs? You will waste your entire life worrying and who benefits from that?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 9:35am
I've noticed that even if you try to force the issue of gender non-specificity with toys, the children will still play differently even with the exact same toys. When I gave my dd trucks, she used them as doll beds. When my same-age nephew picked up her Barbie, he used it as a club.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 9:37am
You've never heard of child support laws?????
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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 9:42am

"And if your kids just 'thriving' is good enough for you, then great." It's definately good enough for me and I suspect that if you look up "thrive" in the dictionary, you'll discover that it's good enough for you to.

The Oxford American Dictionary defines it as "to grow and develop well and vigorously". When you imply that "thriving" is somehow less than what you want for your kids, I'd love to hear what you think is BETTER than thriving.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 9:43am
Yep, all choices have consequences, and the more we anticipate them, the better.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 9:51am

"M dh made 3x the amount I did and I hated what I was doing. I *wanted* to sah b/c I do not see the point of a baby in daycare."


All good reasons to SAH.

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